When was the first time you said "I love you" to someone in your life other than your family?
And what is your "love language"?
While I was a child, at least until I was 13 years old, I had never heard the expression "I love you" in my family. I don't remember hearing it from mom or dad or anyone close to our family group.
Mamá nos mostraba su cariño de otra forma, estaba pendiente de nuestra necesidades, nos hacía lindos vestidos, nos alimentaba, salía a trabajar, nos peinaba, nos daba su bendición por las noches antes de dormir y una que si otra vez nos daba un beso sobre todo cuando se trataba del día de las madres que nos abrazaba y nos apretujaba como ella decía.
Mom showed us her affection in another way, she was attentive to our needs, she made us nice dresses, fed us, went out to work, combed our hair, gave us her blessing at night before going to sleep and once in a while she gave us a kiss, especially on Mother's Day when she hugged us and squeezed us as she used to say.
Después que pasé el adolescencia, parece que a mamá se le disparó la adrenalina del amor, porque nos decía te amo te quiero a cada rato, fue lindo escuchar esas palabras, pero también fue una limitante, porque nació la interrogante, ¿puedo pronunciarla fácilmente ahora cuando no estaba acostumbrad?.
After I became a teenager, it seems that my mother's adrenaline of love was triggered, because she used to tell us I love you I love you all the time, it was nice to hear those words, but it was also a limitation, because the question was born, can I pronounce it easily now when I was not used to it?
En este sentido, no era lo mismo decir, “yo también te amo“, que decirte amo desde el corazón, ojo amo a Mi Madre con todo mi corazón, y la Mary para toda la vida, pero esto es una realidad vivida en muchos hogares, por lo menos en Venezuela, así que aprendí a decir, “yo también te amo”
In this sense, it was not the same to say, "I love you too", than to say I love you from the heart, I love My Mother with all my heart, and Mary for all my life, but this is a reality lived in many homes, at least in Venezuela, so I learned to say, "I love you too".
¿Qué quiero significar con esto?, que para mí no era fácil decir te quiero fuera del núcleo familiar, de hecho decir te quiero o decirte te amo era muy difícil para mí a la edad de 17 años, ¿increíble no?, pero si, así se firmaron muchos hogares.
What I mean by this is that it was not easy for me to say I love you outside the family nucleus, in fact to say I love you or to tell you I love you was very difficult for me at the age of 17, unbelievable, isn't it, but yes, this is how many homes were signed.
Ahora sí, responder a la interrogante o la pregunta de las 1008, sugerida en este concurso. Tenía 17 años cuando dije por primera vez te quiero a mi novio, le había escuchado tantas veces de él, había escuchado tantas veces “te amo” en sus labios que me atreví a “te amo” ya bastante crecida jejeje.
Now yes, answer the question or the question of the 1008, suggested in this contest. I was 17 years old when I said for the first time I love you to my boyfriend, I had heard so many times from him, I had heard so many times "I love you" on his lips that I dared to "I love you" already quite grown up je je je.
Todo lo anteriormente puesto, me enseñó a tener mi propio lenguaje del amor, y se lo posible por cambiar el contexto que viví de niña, así que una de las estrategias que uso para expresar mi lenguaje del amor, es con palabras de reafirmación.
All of the above taught me to have my own love language, and I do my best to change the context I lived in as a child, so one of the strategies I use to express my love language is with words of affirmation.
Es decir expreso mi amor, con palabras de apoyo y de refuerzo a las personas que amo mami te amo, Hijo me siento orgullosa de ti, Esposo me siento orgullosa de ti, tienes talento, pocos dominan el contenido que tú dominas, a mis nietas les envío muchos “te amo”, en fin uso las palabras de refuerzo para expresar mi lenguaje del amor.
I express my love, with words of support and reinforcement to the people I love, Mommy I love you, Son I am proud of you, Husband I am proud of you, you have talent, few master the content that you master, to my granddaughters I send many "I love you", in short I use the words of reinforcement to express my language of love.
Otra forma de expresar mi lenguaje del amor, tratando de pasar tiempo de calidad con los seres que amo, les explico, planificamos salidas donde podamos disfrutar de la naturaleza de la montaña de los ríos de mi país, intento por todos los medios tener conversaciones profundas donde expresamos lo que sentimos y nuestras opiniones son valoradas, no tenemos fechas específicas para celebraciones, cualquier día puede ser una celebración para ir a comer un helado, una pizza, o simplemente un cafecito, pasar tiempo de calidad es un gancho para la familias, porque son momentos que ellos nunca olvidarán.
Another way of expressing my love language, trying to spend quality time with the ones I love, I explain, we plan outings where we can enjoy the nature of the mountain of the rivers of my country, I try by all means to have deep conversations where we express what we feel and our opinions are valued, we do not have specific dates for celebrations, any day can be a celebration to go eat an ice cream, a pizza, or just a coffee, spending quality time is a hook for the families, because they are moments that they will never forget.
Finalmente, otras formas de expresar mi lenguaje del amor es ayudarlos en sus tareas universitarias, abrazos besos, pellizcos cariñosos, acariciar el cabello colocar la mano en su hombro en un momento que están algo entristecido, intento ayudarlos a resolver sus problemas personales, incluso, hasta colaborar financieramente con nuestros seres queridos es una forma que yo creo que podemos demostrar el lenguaje de mi amor.
Finally, other ways of expressing my love language is to help them in their university tasks, hugs, kisses, affectionate pinches, stroking their hair, putting my hand on their shoulder in a moment when they are a little sad, trying to help them solve their personal problems, even collaborating financially with our loved ones is a way that I believe we can demonstrate the language of my love.
Por supuesto, que no es fácil establecer el lenguaje del amor en las familias cuando el hogar que te antecedió, o el hogar donde tú creciste, no recibiste cariño ni palabras de apoyo ni de refuerzo, obviamente se hace difícil, pero cuando cambiamos las estructuras que nos hirieron en el pasado, entendiendo que esas estructuras son consecuencia de sus antecesores, podemos tener nuevos inicios y cambiar para mejorar y una de las formas es expresando nuestro amor hacia ellos de cualquier manera y sea con hechos o con .
Of course, it is not easy to establish the language of love in families when the home that preceded you, or the home where you grew up, you did not receive love or words of support or reinforcement, obviously it is difficult, but when we change the structures that hurt us in the past, understanding that these structures are a consequence of their predecessors, we can have new beginnings and change for the better and one of the ways is to express our love for them in any way and either with deeds or with .
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To achieve the change of those structures that hurt in the past is very valiso, as you reflect in your writing, to be able to have new beginnings expressing that love towards them in any way, thank you for sharing your experiences,
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Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and personal story, @gabilan55 . It’s wonderful to see how you've transformed your experiences into a positive and loving approach to your relationships. Words of affirmation and quality time are indeed powerful ways to express love, and it's evident that you put a lot of thought and effort into showing your affection in meaningful ways.
It's true that our upbringing can greatly influence how we express love, but as you've beautifully demonstrated, we have the power to create our own love languages and establish new, positive patterns for future generations. It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve embraced and evolved your own ways of expressing love, ensuring that the people in your life feel valued and cherished.
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I understand completely when you say, how saying I love You did not come easy to you, it took me quite a few years to be able to say it as well. Now however I tell my daughters I love them all of the time.
Thank you for sharing the ways in which you now show love, how it has evolved over the years, each of them are very powerful. xx
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