Sometimes putting one's life on paper helps. Impressive how you can write it down. Take care and greetings from Holland!
I believe - I am sure - another member of SSG wrote down how he met a narcistic girlfriend who immediately started manipulating everyone of his family. A disaster...
Yes it ends in disaster and most are none the wisest and don't question a thing. Only if relatives started questioning some of the things they were seeing things may have been different. Obviously with public perception being a main driver you can trip them up in public and there is a lot of holes in their deceptions that are easy to see if you really analyze the situation but it will cost you dearly later behind closed doors.