Hello Ladies, we are already at #100. It is true that I dont participate in every week but in those that I can be present, I do.
Do you know how to be an effective advocate for your beloved one or friend when they're dealing with a mental health issue? Do you know how to respond, whom to contact for help? Have you ever been faced such a challenge?
Hola Ladies, ya estamos en el #100. Es cierto que no participo en todas las semanas pero en las que puedo estar presente, lo hago.
¿Sabe cómo apoyar de forma eficaz a un ser querido o amigo cuando se trata de un problema de salud mental? ¿Sabe cómo responder, a quién contactar para obtener ayuda? ¿Alguna vez te has enfrentado a un desafío así?
My brother in the middle, on his left is my uncle and on the other side behind, our cousin (Taking him to shave)
This is something that I have experienced on the front page. I have 4 brothers, one of them has a mental disability...
His story is quite sad, a few days after he was born, he got sick, he had a very high fever and started convulsing, they brought him back to life but unfortunately many of his neurons were burned in the process, leaving him with that disability.
What is it like living with him? His mind is like that of a small child, a 4-year-old who can't speak, might say, despite being 36 years old. He perfectly recognizes everything in general, he knows what the clothes are, he knows the colors, he knows what you teach him, like a small child, the only thing is that he only knows how to say two words perfectly: mom and dad, the rest are sounds according to his mood.
I know him very well, he has always been with me since I was born, I always treated him the same way I treat all my siblings, when I was little I did not know that he had a disability over the years, in my adolescence I understood it, that he was not like the other people that I saw in my day to day, I also saw him in many stressful situations, when he was stressed but in excess, he could become a little violent to the point of wanting to break the things that he has close, he always tore his own clothes when he got upset, in high stress situations he had to be medicated with painkillers, many times I saw him in those situations but I was never afraid of him because I knew he would not do anything to hurt us or himself.
There was a time when my mom was not at home because she was always working to support us and I became her, so I had to take care of him and make his food, make sure he was okay, my mom hardly had time to take him to walk so he spends most of his time at home and that makes me very sad, from time to time my uncle goes to my mother's house and takes him for a walk, and in his face I can see that those are the best moments of their life.
With one of my brothers he always watched action movies and in some way they affected his way of seeing the world, I say this, because when we are outside with him and he sees the police go by, he gets scared and runs for his life, in his mind He will believe that he is some kind of thug and must flee from them, only that, the rest is quite normal.
The reality is that not all my brothers support my mother, not all of them help her and it's very sad... And I know my mother is tired, she named him Angel, she gives her life for him but I know she needs everyone's support because it is a job that requires a lot of dedication. I no longer live with them but every time I have a chance I make sure they are okay and able to eat.
My brother just needs to be patient with him, to treat him well, he has never done anything wrong and when he gets stressed a lot I learned that we who take care of him should not get stressed or yell at him in those moments because we unleash his aggressive behavior, we should be calm and talk to him calmly or ask him to please calm down, he has always listened to me and has always calmed down with me, I have never had to medicate him in my presence because I don't like that, I always think that he can calm down on his own and he has shown it to me, little by little my mother stopped medicating him only in situations that she considers extreme (he goes out of control daily for no reason).
And that's the story.
Esto es algo que he vivido en primera plana. Tengo 4 hermanos varones, uno de ellos tiene discapacidad mental...
Su historia es bastante triste, a los pocos días de nacido, se enfermó, tuvo una fiebre muy alta y empezó a convulsionar, lo trajeron de vuelta a la vida pero lamentablemente muchas de sus neuronas se quemaron en el proceso, dejándolo con esa discapacidad.
¿Cómo es vivir con él? Su mente es como la de un niño pequeño podría decir un niño de 4 años que no sabe hablar, a pesar de tener 36 años. Él reconoce perfectamente todo en general, sabe que es la ropa, sabe los colores, él sabe lo que le enseñas, cómo un niño pequeño, lo única cosa es que solo sabe decir dos palabras a la perfección: mamá y papá, el resto son sonidos de acuerdo a su estado de ánimo.
Yo lo conozco muy bien, siempre ha estado conmigo desde que nací, siempre lo traté de la misma forma que trato a todos mis hermanos, cuando estaba pequeña no sabía que tenía una discapacidad con el paso de los años, en mi adolescencia lo comprendí, que no era como las otras personas que yo veía en mi día a día, también lo ví en muchas situaciones de estrés, cuando él se estresaba pero en exceso, podía volverse un poco violento al punto de querer romper las cosas que él tenga cerca, siempre se rompía sus propias ropas cuando se molestaba, en situaciones de alto estrés él debía estar medicado con calmantes, muchas veces lo ví en esas situaciones pero nunca le tuve miedo porque sabía que no haría nada para herirnos o herirse a si mismo.
Hubo una temporada donde mi mamá no estaba en la casa porque siempre estaba trabajando para mantenernos y yo me convertí en ella, así que debía cuidar de él y hacerle sus alimentos, asegurarme de que estuviera bien, mi mamá casi no tenía tiempo de llevarlo a pasear por lo que pasa la mayor parte de su tiempo en casa y eso me entristece muchísimo, de vez en cuando mi tío va a la casa de mi madre y lo lleva a pasear, y en su cara puedo ver qué esos son los mejores momentos de su vida.
Con uno de mis hermanos él siempre miraba películas de acción y de alguna forma afectaron su forma de ver el mundo, lo digo, porque cuando estamos afuera con él y ve la policía pasar, él se asusta y corre por su vida, en su mente creerá que es una especie de maleante y debe huir de ellos, solamente eso, el resto es bastante normal.
La realidad es que no todos mis hermanos son apoyos para mí madre, no todos lo ayudan y es muy triste... Y yo sé que mi madre está cansada, ella lo nombró Ángel, ella da su vida por él pero sé que necesita el apoyo de todos porque es un trabajo de mucha dedicación. Actualmente ya no resido con ellos pero en cada momento que tengo una oportunidad me aseguro de que estén bien y puedan comer.
Mi hermano sólo necesita que sean pacientes con él, que lo traten bien, él nunca ha hecho nada malo y cuando se estresa mucho aprendí que no debemos estresarnos nosotros que lo cuidamos o gritarle en esos momentos porque desatamos su comportamiento agresivo, debemos ser calmados y hablarle calmado o pedirle por favor que se calme, él siempre me ha escuchado y siempre se ha calmado conmigo, yo nunca he tenido que medicarlo en mi presencia porque no me gusta, siempre pienso que él se puede calmar sólo y me lo ha demostrado, mi mamá poco a poco dejo de medicarlo sólo en situaciones que ella considera extremas (descontrola diariamente sin razones)
Y esa es la historia.
Having people around him and showing him love will be the best thing that has ever happened to him and forever remember it for good
Of course we all deserve to be love and showing
That's the greatest of all
I got so emotional reading this, I can only imagine how much more you all feel being around him acting that way.
But one thing I can't hide from saying I like about him being that way is his innocency.
That's a virtue to me and I love people who are genuinely innocent (that's why I love little kids so much) 😊
I hope your mum gets more support from your brothers, it's very much needed.
Keep doing what you're doing, you're amazing!
In my mother's house we treating him so normal, it's like being around of a 4 years old kid always
And that is so sweet of you all... I feel inspired by your story 😊
@merit.ahama
That's exactly how I felt in the beginning but then as soon as one gets to understand @josehany's attitude towards the whole situation. She gives a different perception of acceptance.
I couldn't find the right word but you said it well here. Yes she is embracing her brother's innocence and that's a great lesson from this life story too.
Indeed, that is why I say she's amazing... I like her thinking about the whole situation, so admirable 🥰
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Thank you for sharing your beautiful story Jose. When I saw the title, I perceived the story to be touching and emotional. But as soon as I started reading, I found myself reading it with a smile. It is fulfilling to witness the love and bond you share with your brother.
My highlight moment is your zeal right from your adolescence to understand your brother's needs and embracing them, nothing beats that sibling love! #hugs
That's all correct! I love my brother so much, I didn't wanted to tell a sad story only a real one
Buenas. Su post ha sido propuesto para ser votado a lo largo del día por el witness @cervantes. Un saludo
Saludos @goya muchas gracias por valorar esta publicación y el apoyo que nos brindan a los hispanos