Yes, I think many of us experience this feeling every time, or perhaps once in a while, when it flashes through our minds. All the time, I have always had this negative thought that there’s a limit to my capacity when it comes to accomplishing a goal, and it is not until I am put to the test that I realise I could do it.
The thought that I can’t do it to a perfect degree always clouds my mind, and that will make me not take a chance to prove myself. It’s almost like I become my own obstacle even before trying, convincing myself that I don’t meet the standard.
For instance, I always have this mindset that I don’t have the capacity and ability to take a step toward making my dream come true in the aspect of travelling abroad. Whenever my sisters explain the rigorous process of travelling abroad, it makes me look less of myself, and I would immediately conclude that I don’t have the strength.
It’s not that I don’t want to try, it’s just that fear makes me believe that the process is bigger than me. But on another level, I would be positive about it, assuring myself that when we get to the bridge, I would cross it. I often find comfort in that phrase because it reminds me that faith sometimes requires taking one step, even when the whole process isn’t visible.
But for me to take the step, I would feel like, “No, you don’t have the ability. Just stay where you are.” The truth is, there are times I have asked where my sisters got the strength from to keep trying something until they achieve the result, whereas I get frustrated at the first trial. Then the thought comes again, confirming my inability to keep going.
Whenever I think about this situation, I feel like I am not doing my best. It’s as though I am caught between the person I want to be and the person fear wants me to remain.
Another example is when I am trying to find remote jobs, and then there is this thought always coming to me, especially when I find some requirements and would rather look away, thinking I can’t do it. Not until one day, someone cleared my fear away.
I was made to know that the only time a thought that one isn’t capable comes is when we aren’t knowledgeable in that area; once we have understood it and put it into practice, then we don’t have to be afraid. I held onto that word, and it has helped me shape my mind and let go of any negative thoughts.
Confidence is a result of what one has knowledge about, and I’ve learned that fear often feeds on ignorance.
All I need to do is take a step because what I thought would be hard might be a wrong notion, but to give it a trial and realise I have just been scared for nothing. So far, that has worked for me, and the things I found myself not able to do, I do today.
Anytime I think back to how I have been caged into such negativity, I smile. Growth doesn’t happen overnight; it’s a gradual awakening to one’s inner strength.
Life is a risk, and we must learn to take it, especially the ones we have calculated wisely, because it is not a good idea to take a risk blindly and regret it. However, the lessons we learn are what make the difference. I now believe every step taken, no matter how small, weakens the grip of self-doubt and gives strength to the voice of courage within.
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I think I have this thing too, especially this period that I have a lot going on, I feel like I might fail and will have people who will laugh at me , but I just learnt to think in the other direction when the thought comes.
Exactly. That's what it should be. Sending away the negative thoughts.
I understand you. I've felt that fear, and it's like you say: there comes a time when you have to give yourself the courage to try. I liked your post. Cheers!
Yes, giving it a try is worth the try itself. Thank you for reading.
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STOPIt's pretty common for most to feel that way initially. The fear of starting or taking chances can be overwhelming. It's good that you learned to break free from it :)
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Yes, thank you, ma'am ✌️
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Thank you. I appreciate.
Sometimes we have to take a step towards what we want to achieve, starting from the little we can do, without letting the fear of us not being good enough overshadow our ability.
It's nice to know you found a way around your fears, you are capable Princess ❣️
Yes, you are right. We just have to take the step. Thank you for your comments.
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In such a case I think I have advantages for having robotic type mentality because when I dream for something and I believe I can do it for sure and I think things will be perfect or I will make it perfect. My robotic mentality is also a source of my confidence also. it's good for me.
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That's a very good one. People with such a mentality always dare to try something out.
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Fear is one killer of potentials , it does more damage than good.
You don’t realize how much potential you have if you’re always scared of trying.
Better to fail multiple times until you get it right than not try at all.
Lovely read!
Absolutely 👌 you are indeed right. There is no harm in failing but you learn more
We all have fears; the important thing is to overcome them. It feels like freedom when you overcome your fears. It's great that you're able to overcome yours. Cheers.
Yeah, so great. Thank you, ma’am.
Confidence in our choices are best made when we go through the effort of gathering all the facts and right information to make and informed decision.I do plan to travel when I am healthy enough to but I also like to do some homework that would make that experience more enjoyable and memorable.
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Yeah, that’s right. Preparation is the key.
Thank you.
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My advice to you is to take things one step at a time.
The secret of people who have achieved what you've longed for is that they start doing it little by little.
For example, to visit another country, start by researching the requirements, then gradually gather each requirement. Then the money, and then, before you know it, you're already visiting the country of your dreams.
Start doing things, because we regret what we don't do more than what we do.
Go! You can do it!
Thank you very much for this. I truly appreciate it.
I think something we need to fight with our fear and our mindset also, for we to get what we want