Let's imagine our mind as a glass of water with earth inside it, this earth symbolizes two negative mental states such as anger, envy, lust and sadness;
As with water, our minds are clouded by these feelings, preventing us from thinking clearly and making us feel miserable and miserable; When we let the water rest without shaking it, the sediments slowly settle to the bottom of the glass, making the water clear again, that is, if we do not expose ourselves to the sources of these feelings, we will be able to enjoy a happy and serene state of mind.
But these feelings will always be in our mind and before certain events they will wake up causing them to accelerate again and take control over us, we understand then that either we must leave the water completely still or we must learn not to shake when it moves.
The first case would mean locking yourself at home to avoid any type of disturbance since any interaction with the outside is subject to the possibility of something happening that negatively affects us, this is impossible, in addition to that disturbances can knock on your door and the second case It involves learning how negative feelings fall asleep inside us, while we continue to live in a normal way.
And this is where true mental stability resides, so we are going to delve into why and how we must obtain this ability and for this we are going to use the famous Maslow pyramid; This American psychologist established a hierarchy of human needs through five divisions, understanding that once those of a lower level are satisfied, the human being tends to instinctively try to reach those of a higher level, in modern societies or developed countries the needs physiological safety and affiliation are practically covered in their entirety, we do not worry about whether or not we will have food, a bed where we can sleep, an environment that allows us to be safe or a friend or family member with whom we can talk and share our opinions.
We take for granted that they are things that we will always have and we feel that they are elements over which we have control, but that we do not invest time or energy in worrying about them, it is from the fourth level where the new mental problems begin, since by not being able to meet some of the needs of the two upper levels, we tend to frustrate ourselves more easily and perceive our life as meaningless and obviously this disturbs us, most people get stuck in the fourth level, since they feel that they do not they can achieve success in their lives and that when they do something that they consider a step forward to achieve this success, they are not recognized for it and this is where the first problem lies that prevents us from enjoying a stable mind in our own definition of success.
When they talk to us about a successful person, we imagine people with money, power and relevance in the social sphere, but we have never been associated with success with stability, tranquility, self-control, in fact we see from the news that the people to whom we We attribute this fictitious success, they tend to end up with psychological problems, drug addiction or family quarrels over economic issues, things that are very far from bringing happiness, it is clear then that the things that we attribute to this ostentatious success are triggers to make us feel unhappy about what that we should not seek mental stability in them.
In this sense, something very useful that we can do is avoid exposing ourselves to this type of stimulus as much as possible, such as not watching certain television programs that use discussions and manipulation to create entertainment stop following certain people who They demonstrate in their day-to-day lives that they have no moral values and whose life is an example of harmful excesses or avoiding relying on hate speech to cement our beliefs.
In the end, the human being is like a sponge and if we expose ourselves to this type of content without any control we will end up incorporating ourselves and that will prevent us from feeling good, it is like the father who smokes in front of his son since he is little and at end is surprised that your child starts to smoke, unfortunately this is something that is not taught and would avoid many of the problems we have today, we believe that the simple act of observing and listening to something will not have any influence on us and this It is not like this.
Once we understand that personal success depends on us and not on what others consider successful, we will be able to advance to the last level in which we will begin to worry with the most open mind about all the elements that will make you have a completely stable mind, morality. of our actions, empathy with the rest of the people, the ability to accept what happens and use it to continue advancing towards our goals instead of stopping us are capacities that are a stable mind can dominate and that reciprocally provide greater stability to our mind.
Try to be aware of all this and the next time you go to do something ask yourself if it is the right thing to do, if you are going to say something about someone consider how it affects the other person and if you fail in any task, think about how to use this experience so as not to fail again, in the end mental stability depends entirely on awareness, so the more aware you are of everything around you and the better you understand how to manage all the stimuli you receive inside, the better you will feel about yourself and you will realize that the solution to your problems is in you, not outside.
I hope that my words and reflections are useful to you.
Thanks for the support!!