The most annoying part is that these questions didn’t just come from the old landlords, but from landladies and young landlords as well. I don’t know but many times, when we ask them why, they say it’s because they don’t like the single women of this generation.
My friend was disappointed just last week after she had agreed to pay the rent for a particular apartment. Unsurprisingly, she got a call from the landlord asking her if she’s married. That was the end. She lost the apartment because they needed her to bring the husband to them so they can have man-to-man talks.
Many years back in my village, it was this same mentality that sent a lot of women and girls into marriages that later turned them miserable. The popular belief in my village was that the women should be trained to do basic and complex chores, and trained on how to keep home because soon, they would be married off to the highest bidder so they can start a ‘new life’, but for the complementary gender, male, it’s not like that.
The male child in my village is the king, the conqueror, and the knight. Any family that doesn’t have a male child is headed towards doom. So, all the tips and tricks to be rich, and useful to oneself and the society at large are given to the males because the women are supposed to depend on them throughout their lives, no matter what the male does. The women are saddled with the responsibilities of accepting the excesses of all males in their lives because they are the less powerful gender, that is why if you get to my village today, you’ll see girls of twenty years old pregnant, and with toddler being battered by the husband or the father or even the brothers, yet nothing will be done to it because she was the one that triggered their anger, even though that is not the case.
You don’t stand up to a male they say, that is why we have a lot of men today who see women as properties to be owned, or an item to be kept at home.
I remember a time I was job-hunting. I met this man who said “girls don’t have to work. They only need to submit to the will of people like us so they can get what they want” at the point of interview. Right there, and then, I knew I was never going back there, except I was ready to get harassed. This is what being a woman means in the society we are in.
Thankfully, there are initiatives clamoring for the eradication of these archaic beliefs. For equity in workspaces and benefits. People are now getting to realise that being a woman means being a home keeper and a lot more. Being a woman means having a strong emotional intelligence. Being a woman means having a strong leadership skill, zeal and the will to be more than the tag that the society has placed on her. Being a woman means raising highly intelligent children to build a community devoid of crimes in all its forms.
Right now, I’m more than happy that people are getting to see that gender wars are not meant to happen in the first place and are trying to effect the change. Whether a man or a woman, peaceful coexistence and not battle for the strongest or for the most relevant is what will make the world better.
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This was so disheartening to read and wherever you are, I hate that you and other women would have to go through something so deplorable because of your gender.
It feels like we would have to fight for the rights of women till the end of time but I'm glad that you're taking a stand against this. Word of advice, never fail to stand your ground, never fail to lash out when you can at this level of injustice and don't ever submit to a man you don't want to because he feels it's his right as a man.
Even though it doesn't seem like it, we are progressing dear. We definitely are. Lots of !LUV to you, Queen.💞
Thank you for the warm compliment.
Despite the efforts, it seems like there are people not willing to yield to the change. Nonetheless, we keep trying and won't ever give up trying. Being a women is much more than they think they know and we won't stop preaching it.
Your story is infuriating and powerful.
It's awful that you and your friend faced such blatant discrimination in finding an apartment. 😪
And it's fantastic that you see the positive changes happening.
By speaking up and supporting these initiatives, we can all work towards a future where a woman's worth isn't defined by marital status or outdated stereotypes.
Yes, we can. And that, we've been trying to achieve. No, we won't stop until the archaic mentality is buried deep down where nobody could reach to dig it up ever again.
It's terrible to see such things happening in the society on gender basis. Even the discrimination comes from pretty educated people.
I agree that the battle between genders should be eliminated. The two genders are to compliment each other and not tobe superior over the other. Yes, there is more physical abuse against woman. Nevertheless, I believe men are not saved of the emotional abuse as a victim of this gender war. There is a need to develop a mindset of respect for each other.
I agree. Men and women were created to peacefully coexist and not start a gender-based war. We should keep preaching until our voices are heard so that the already broken men and women will not continue the cycle of creating a continuous gender war.
Thank you, Hive Pakistan. ❤️
That's a good point to consider
Thank you so much. ❤️
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Thank you very much.
It hurts to be treated in that manner even in this day and age, eventually they will have to change and there will no longer any room for it. We have already come far, we just need to build on those before us, continue to make a stand for our future daughters and granddaughters even if it doesn't change in our lives but for theirs.
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The future needs to be better for our daughters, so stopping now is not an option. Thank you for the kind comment, ma'am.