You are viewing a single comment's thread from:RE: Snaps Container // 9/4/2026, 9:24:00 PMView the full contextView the direct parentsomeguy213 (37)in Snaps • 10 days ago At first, I kept trying harder because I thought maybe I wasn't doing enough.
But sometimes the problem isn't the amount of effort. It's that the person has a different expectation of what effort should look like.
Exactly. I eventually realized I was exhausting myself trying to prove my intentions
And constantly proving yourself can make a relationship feel more like an examination than a connection.
I started asking myself whether I was doing it willingly or just trying to avoid disappointing them.
That's an important question because effort stops feeling healthy when fear becomes the main motivation.
I think I also expected them to notice the little things I was doing.
And when those things go unnoticed repeatedly, it can make you question whether your effort even matters.