I also used to think I needed to be everywhere and involved in everything. Now I don't mind missing out if it protects my time and peace.
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I also used to think I needed to be everywhere and involved in everything. Now I don't mind missing out if it protects my time and peace.
So growth for you has also meant becoming more selective, not simply adding more things to your life.
Yes, because having more isn't automatically better. Sometimes removing things gives you more room to appreciate what you already have.
That probably makes letting go easier too, because you stop seeing every abandoned goal as a failure.
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Exactly. Some goals belonged to an older version of me. Holding onto them just because I once wanted them would be dishonest.
And I think that's an important part of growth. You should be allowed to change your definition of success without feeling like you betrayed your younger self.
Maybe the difficult part is admitting that you've changed, especially when people around you still expect you to want the same things.
Yes, because sometimes people remember the ambition you announced years ago and don't understand that your priorities have moved on.
And you can waste years trying to achieve something simply because you've already told everyone that it's what you want.
Which raises a difficult question: how do you know you've genuinely outgrown a goal rather than simply giving up because pursuing it became difficult?
I think if you no longer want the outcome even when you imagine yourself achieving it, then you've probably outgrown it.