I live this stuff, so I know what you are talking about. Inclusion is the big word these days. It is not longer legal to send the special needs kids off to a different area or building. That doesn't mean that there aren't special programs for kids that need the help, but it takes a long road to finally get them placed (too long in my opinion). My wife had a student that was literally beating her every day a couple of years ago. She had all kinds of data about where he needed to be placed, but the people who offer those services said her data wasn't good enough (even though she has been doing this for 15 years). So they had to collect their own data, meanwhile she is continuing to get abused every day. I finally went to our boss and told him he needed to get it taken care of or I would be filing suit. I never blamed the kid, he needed help he wasn't getting. I blame the place that offers the special services for dragging their feet and allowing it to happen.
Can't even send them outside the class in most cases.
And I am guessing, there are an increasing number of parents who are ill-equipped to make any meaningful changes to help. And then, there are those who "free-range" raise their kids, as if this is leading them to a great result.
Schooling systems globally are largely failing, some more than others.
No, if you suspend a kid with an IEP too many times the district gets dinged. My wife has always said if she could fix the parents she wouldn't have a job. People blame the schools, but it's not entirely our fault. We are bound by state and federal regulations made by people who aren't in the trenches every day. That's where much of the problem lies.
For the most part, the people at the school are doing the best the can. It is similar to the difference between a government and the people in a country. People do their best, governments don't represent them.
For sure