The sad thing is more and more adults aren't moving past that stage of thinking life isn't fair and they carry that with them for a long time. I am dealing with a person like that right now and it is mind numbing. You can't just tell them to get over it (even though you want to). Looking at it from the outside it's so obvious, and sad, but until they are willing to see that themselves they will never change.
Victimhood is in vogue these days: handouts, attention, sympathy and all that useless rot. I don't know what the attraction is myself, I'd much rather be independent and strong, to see myself as such. Unfairness is the most exciting part of life! Tell them to hug trees. That always cheers me up. I'm serious! I think it helps to open the mind,
Reading this, I think you might be right. There is something about being that close to nature that most people miss these days. Gardeners know it :)
As gardeners, we rule. Gardeners have to be a lot of things we do not allow ourselves to be in human relations, ruthless for one. We make all the plans we can, and still fail miserably at some of it. But that's OK! We either try again if it's very important, or shift to be more in tune with the conditions. Opportunities abound for the next year, and again for the year after that, into perpetuity. Great analogy!
What do you think it takes for the "average" person to see themselves?
If I could tell you I could fix so many people. I just asked my wife and she thinks a lot of it has to do with socializing and seeing others in their own peer group succeeding and having a different perspective.