If my health allowed I would like to do more for society in my retirement. Even though I do volunteer on occasion for the Toys for Tots during the Christmas season, I want to do more. My body just will not cooperate. I could care less if anyone rememvers me for it though. Is it enough for my kids to remember me well? Yep. good enough for me.
It is enough. At the moment though, I really feel like I am failing at doing what I need to do for my family. Maybe things will turn around.
That is what you feel. But is it what they feel? I would highly doubt it. It sounds like you are almost struggling with one of the things I do. Overly self critical.