If the criteria for my decision is: "People who are dear and important to me, who respect me, support me and care for me" (as I also care for them, respect them and love them), it is very easy to remove them, when I prove to myself (unfortunately, sometimes it takes more time and I experience a lot of disappointment) that they do not deserve my time or me.
Well, how many of them I "crossed out" in my imaginary notebook, so that I never hear from them again, my "great" friends, to whom I was good, only when they needed me.
I'm sorry that I spent the time of my life on such characters, but how else can I find out what someone thinks of me, than if, for example, I come to a situation where I need someone to return the favor.
And when I get 🍌, I return the same.
It sounds like you have a good handle on it so well done there!