You write like you’re worried she’ll remember the impatience more than the effort.
But kids are strangely perceptive about effort.
She’s watching you try. Watching you push through mental fatigue. Watching you choose calm at the table even when you could have chosen irritation. Watching you clean the marker instead of escalating the moment. Watching you admit you’re not who you were, but still showing up.
One negative weighs twice that of a positive. So just to draw even, it requires twice as much positive.