Reflections on fear
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People die for what they never dared to live and feel just because they are afraid, but they do not realise that fear will always exist as long as we are alive, because it reminds us that we are alive.
I learned this while in therapy when, in conversation with my psychologist, I realised that it is inevitable to feel fear, especially when it comes to important personal situations. But trauma causes us to distort fear and turn it into a real monster.
When we learn that our pain is just waiting to be understood and not rejected, we get to know ourselves much better.
That is why it is important to always nourish the mind and spirit to accept the fears in our lives and not see them as an obstacle but as an opportunity to get to know ourselves better and thus be able to move forward in life, not without fear but aware of it.
When I began searching for answers to my pain, I started by humanising it and then looking at what I felt without judging it, in order to give a name to what was weighing on my mind and also on my heart.
From my experience, I know that fear lives within me, and that it feeds and grows stronger because of my thoughts, and that this feeling often turns into a monster when I deny it, but when I accept it, I transform it into my ally.
This has been my view of fear in my life, and perhaps many will see themselves reflected in it, while others may not.
But I know that if I just wait around hoping to never feel fear in my life, I will remain paralysed and frustrated for the rest of my existence, and that is where fear turns into panic, resentment, hatred, and other emotions that make us feel like we are in hell.
I remember when I decided to open my heart to my parents and talk openly about my sexual orientation and everything that staying silent for so long had meant to me.
Before and during that crucial and intense moment for me, I never stopped feeling afraid, but as I spoke with a trembling voice but with a firm decision to express my truth, that feeling gradually disappeared, and I remember that without realising it, the fear that had paralysed me since I was a child was gone.
That day, I received the biggest, most sincere hug a child can receive from their parents, but regardless of the outcome, I had already decided to speak up and stop feeling sorry for myself.
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And since then, I have understood first-hand that fear will always be present in our lives, but not as an obstacle, rather as a bridge to reach and achieve what we desire.
Because, as they say: courage is not the absence of fear, but the strength to overcome it despite feeling that fear.
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A powerful reflection — I really appreciate how you show fear not as an enemy but as a teacher. Your story about speaking openly with your parents is deeply moving and reminds us that courage grows when we accept fear instead of denying it.👍
That's right, fear is not an enemy but a great teacher who will always appear in our lives as often as necessary.
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A child has physical reactions to the fear of a monster under their bed, which is similar to the way we see types of trauma. We turn it into something larger than it is, and we freeze under the pressure of it.
Yes. There is no escaping fear, it is healthy and natural. But, do we need to mentally and emotionally traumatised, or is that a self-inflicted condition?
El miedo es una emoción primitiva, ahora el miedo que vivimos es para mí más autoinfligida, dado a nuestros traumas no resultos por eso como en necesite de terapia para concientizar
Thank you for sharing your interesting reflections on fear! I have fears, too. But I make sure these will never be a hindrance for me to live life to the fullest.😇
De eso trata amiga, de no dejarnos paralizar por el miedo