Sometime in my life I used to feel being too busy was a badge of honor or was something that would give me a reward but as I continue to go and understand how busy my days were, meetings, errands and endless to-do lists that I forced myself in. It makes me to collapse in bed each night, getting so stressed out. And most of the time, trying to be busy all the time makes me to accomplish nothing at the end. And sometimes even the real goal that I want to achieve, that I was supposed to meet, was far from me.
Some relationships I was supposed to create or maintain, even with people that I love, did not lack any form of deep connection because I was so distracted with so many things to do that I didn’t even have time to concentrate on one and make it a better.
I’ve discovered in myself now that if you don’t carve some few hours each day to be alone, maybe thinking that you’re not serious about achieving your goals. And this is very funny. I learnt this the hard way.
I could remember when during my college, I was chasing a dream of starting my own business, even while I was in college. So, I would love to start a business. My ideas were just half-baked and half-hazardly. I could not focus. Until when I started searching, I decided I would never mind to think about the skills that I really want to learn before I graduated. And I was just left alone with my thoughts. No phone, no distraction. And I felt quiet. I wanted to map out the skills I wanted to learn, which was affiliate marketing back then. And I started putting effort to make progress.
Even for hours, this became my secret weapon. I had to focus on this dream and try to make it a reality. And thank God for today. I think I’m doing better in that aspect.
This is not just about growth. You feel that you’re not having time for your family or your loved one because you’re too jam-packed with to-do lists in your life. Or trying to do things that keeps you busy all the time without having deep connection with people that you love. Yes, this is so obvious. And it’s that time that you are neglecting important things of your life. And this can be very damaging.
But I used to think that jam-packing all these dates or open dinners was enough to keep my family relationship. But it showed that I was really distracted. And not just fully present when my loved ones need me. So, I was missing a lot. And I was not having time to be alone.
For me, when this change started is when I started prioritizing these solo moments. Solo walk, quiet evening, reading a book. Or just going out to nature. I was better and more patient. And knew how to connect genuinely with people around me. And I was willing to spend time with my loved ones.
This time the Lord helped me to rediscover myself and what I really needed to keep my life going. I had time to reflect and show as a better person. Better friend, better partner, better brother. Better child to my loved ones.
The truth is just find your time alone. Don’t be selfish. Don’t be too busy. We only live once. Find time where you can reach out. Gain clarity and build this strength. Chase your good and nurture them. In those early mornings, I just stay in nature. Meditating, reflecting on my past life. What I need to change.
Find that quiet space. That is a walk. Go into protected time. It’s not just about you, but... In all, it is about becoming the best version of yourself and also be the best for everyone around you. Take good care of yourself. Take good care of people around you. And at the end, it’s to live a fulfilled life.
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