Old Havana
We are given a life at birth to live as we see fit. It is up to each of us to decide what to do with it. We all have complete freedom to use it as we wish. How we do so is solely our responsibility. There are people who live their lives in the shadow of others. They have no light of their own and are content to reflect the brilliance of other lives.
This phenomenon manifests itself in different ways: in parent-child relationships, between partners, among people in the same social environment, or in relation to established norms.
But let's take it one step at a time.
Parents and children
Nowadays, it is common to find parents living their children's lives, doing their children's chores, deciding what they will do with their future, choosing their friends and partners. These parents, always with the best of intentions, hinder their children's intellectual and spiritual growth. They forget that their children are adults who have the right to make mistakes and learn from them. As a result, these children often become insecure individuals with no interests of their own, who fail in their personal and professional relationships. Children need their parents as guides and role models, but we must let go of their hands, help them get up if they fall, and let them walk the path of their lives independently.
The Couple
We also find couples where one member lives in the shadow of the other. These people abandon their personality to live according to what their partner demands. It is not difficult to find stories where someone abandoned their personal study or work project to serve the whims or needs of the other. They become spiritually and materially dependent on the other party. Thus, they begin to live someone else's life. The members of the couple should complement each other. The relationship is a search for common ground between its members without giving up the cultivation of their individuality.
The Neighbor
On the other hand, we have those who are attentive to the lives of others around them. They are interested in every detail, whether significant or trivial, in the lives of others. The worst part of this situation is that they do not have healthy motivations. In most cases, they are driven by unhealthy curiosity or envy. These people spend their lives worrying about what others do or do not do.
Society
Social prejudices are the reason why people live according to the patterns established by society. Those who choose to live this way subjugate their lives to the dictates of established rules. Of course, life in society has rules, which are necessary to maintain peaceful coexistence, but never to restrict the personality of its members. Prejudices clip our wings and push us into the herd, preventing us from living as the black sheep we sometimes long to be.
Each individual needs their own life experience. Let us remember that the time we are given is finite, and we should not waste it living the lives of others. This reflection may not bring anything new to many of you, but it is striking to see how, despite this, we can discover that many around us are living other people's lives... worse still, to discover that we ourselves are doing so.
At another stage in my life, I was codependent on an ex; the process of letting go was terrible. I suffered a lot because it took me a while to understand that I was tied to NOTHING, and that it wasn't worth returning to the past. People must fail to succeed. In any field, that will help you overcome obstacles and challenges... little by little, you mature and begin to understand what life is all about. As you explain so well, how many factors can cloud our lives? How many of them, due to our own fears, force us to live in the background?
But how good it is to breathe when we are free!
It's a pleasure to read you, my friend.
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Most times parents make good choice for their children why children makes silly mistakes to cope.
Logically, parents want the best for their children. The problem arises when parents feel entitled to make decisions for their children. I am referring to children who are old enough to make their own decisions.
There is another side to this problem. Children who fail to mature and expect their parents to solve their problems for them.
Thank you very much for reading and commenting.👍