The concept of "Forgiveness" does not only speak in relation to religion, but also holds profound significance in psychology, ethics, and personal development, especially in the harsh world that we are now in. I learnt to forgive and forget, not because my religion often speaks of it, but because I understand this is the only means I can have peace within myself and set my mind free from every distraction.
I personally know it is not everything that can be easily forgiven and forgotten just like that, to some time even numbs the pain, but the truth is revenge does not bring peace, it even hunts us more, I have see several people that got their revenge back on thier offenders but still that did not give them peace because the pain still hunts them. A broken man is a very dangerous man, which is why I often advise anyone to heal first before anything or any decisions they will make, because at that moment their minds are only directed on one vision anare d distracted.
Some pains are really hard to go through, yes, I have experienced them, unknown compared to what some have experienced. Your mind keeps on telling you to let go and move on, but your heart still draws them closer and instils that feeling of guilt and self-blame. But the truth I have witnessed is that we need to let go completely for new, fresh air to come in. Let go completely, delete every memory, forgive in your heart, focus on your present and future and leave the past buried, so that we can gain our freedom and also set ourselves free.
Forgiveness is not just about letting go of the person or pain, it's about healing the pain, and I believe this is like the first step anyone must take before embarking on a healing journey, either psychological or physical. I learnt to forgive not because I want to, sometimes it's hard to forgive, but I must forgive regardless of whatever wrongs have been done towards me.
Forgiveness is about taking control of your feelings and pain. You accept that, yes, it really hurt m,e, but I need to set my mind free from it by accepting it's all my past now and focusing on the future that is yet to come and be attained.
There is this positive energy I get after some time of forgiveness, it's like embracing a new beginning and accepting my mistakes. When we hold bitterness for too long, it poisons our mind and makes us dangerous or vult9 so vulnerable to so many sickened mentality people or bad vibes or energy, but embracing our mistakes and letting go of the past helps us to create a sense of focus that can help shape our future into a better part.
I believe forgiveness is a gift we must give ourselves to embrace freedoms, peaceful living and happiness from the person that inflicted the pain or perhaps in our life to set us free from pain
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I completely agree with you @mikechrist. I remember the first time I said I am sorry to a friend of mine as a child, it felt like I was relieved of my burden. Though I felt offended by this female friend of mine, yet he had decided to not speak to me claiming that I am the one at fault. It lingered for a while, but I could no longer bear it. I simply went to sit with her one of the days and simply said I am sorry. She look at me (something she has done since started fighting) and smiled. We started talking again, and I realised from that day why I should not have stay for that long without talking to my friend. I realised that I have no reason keep malice of any form with anybody
I have found that a lot of forgiveness is only forgiveness in the moment, but when it is convenient again, the same feelings came up, and the same blames.