I have been kicked in the head and in my stomach. My elder brother is one such person that don't really care where he hits me. I remember one time when I had neck ache for almost two weeks. I could not properly turn my head. Ohh how it hurts. Irrespective of his bad discipline, I still like him cause' he has a lot of good qualities.
I remember when my cousin asked me how life was treating me. My exact response was: "life is shit. Its as hard as a dried cow dunk and its being forced down my throat with no water or saliva to break it down a little."
The emotions are always overwhelming. It gets worst when i remember that i'm all alone. No dad or rich uncles, just me against life. It got sooo hard that i almost committed suicide in 2021, 2am. That was when i became sooo determined to do better.
Over the years, i noticed that as i grow older and pass through life, I get colder and more rigid. I don't know if its a positive or negative change in attitude, but then, I'm just living, setting goals, and working my ass off to achieve my goals.
How did you manage to be happy and not cold irrespective of the things you've faced and the experience you gathered in life?
Happy and not cold?
I focus on designing and creating my ideal life and that means the right thoughts and attitudes to create the right actions. I have a partner who values me (and I her), close family and friends...a job I'm good at, enjoy and am well paid for, hobbies, passions and goals...there's loads of ways. It comes down to choice, something we all have, and I've chosen to create a magnificent, happy and meaningful life.
I think i now understand the meaning of your quote, "Design and create your ideal life, tomorrow isn't promised."
I've been working with the mindset of being financially stable and i didn't care if i have good friends or a good partner. That reminds me, its been almost 4 months i last talked to my mom. I think I know what to do now.
People focus top much on money...it doesn't bring happiness though. Sure, it can help, but if a person isn't happy, more money won't buy it.
Each of us have to decide our own path...many take the wrong ones.
I agree with what you said 100 percent.
A lot of people over here make such mistakes, and its one of the leading cause of broken homes. If a person is not happy before achieving wealth, i don't think the wealth can bring happiness or love, instead, it will bring people that love them for what they have, instead of who they are.
I really realized a lot from this post and your comments. I honestly appreciate, Sir.
There's a lot of bad decisions being made all over the place but unfortunately in your country it seems to be the norm; bad decisions by people trying to take short cuts by scamming others. It happens all over of course, but your country is well known for it.
In my country, people make a lot of bad decisions. Scamming is one of them. Some abandon their wife/husband and kids. The rate of corruption is increasing by the day. Corruption is not only found within the people, but also within government officials. They call us Giant of Africa, but i don't see any Giant in us.
There are lots of bad people in my country. There are also very good and lovely people here too. I think the reputation of those bad ones is overshadowing the good people we have over here. Scamming is the norm here. Even people from this country are not spared by scammers. Scammers use both physical manipulation and spiritual means to scam their victims. I have fallen victim to both their manipulation and their spiritual means of getting victims (client as the call it).
Each time i find out that someone close to me is going into that lane, I cut off from them immediately without remorse. I have cut off a lot of people. My childhood friend joined them and he began to sweet-talk me to join them. I didn't because i can't. My conscience will never let me do something like that. Yes, life's hard, but then, I prefer to carry an empty plate to the street and beg for money than to scam people. I don't think i'll ever be broke to the extent of begging for money though.
To me, there is no pride in taking shortcuts. He who takes such cheap and worthless shortcuts are worst than scum.
Its better to face the hardship of life and get a taste of how difficult life can be. I think if a person pass through difficulty to build themselves, they will understand the value in money and good relationships, so, they will not misuse their days.
The most annoying thing about these scammers is that after they get the money, they will spend it on hotels, clothes, alcohol, drugs, womanizing and other harmful practices.
I'm proud to be a Nigerian, but then, the actions of some people in my country makes it hard to keep being proud of my country.