My uncle said to Dad once that 'surely you wish you had a boy'. Dad was gobsmacked. Why, he thought, when I have two beautiful daughters? But that says a lot about who my uncle was, and who my (late) Dad was.
I think you're a wonderful father, precisely because you care so much. You set the bar so high for yourself that you'll always feel you're failing, and one day @smallsteps will sit at your dying bedside (hopefully, I mean the calm dying in bed kinda thing) and tell you that you were an amazing father and the only father she could have imagined for herself.
You know, I felt FAR more responsibility as father of a boy. I wanted him to be a good man, you know, because of all the pricks in the world that expect woman to look after them. I reckon I was harder on him than I would have been on a girl, but he's a great man, and my daughter in law always thanks me for that, so I can't have been too bad a mother.
And parent guilt, well, you can't help that.
Pretty weird, eh? At the same time, I do wish I had a boy as well sometimes - because of the potential difference in experience. That is why I wanted twins - Twin experiments!! ;D
Especially these days... It isn't just that men want women to look after them still, they also can be pretty volatile in many other ways. Emotional immaturity is running rife.
So now the real question is... do you want them to have boys or girls!? ;P
Emotional immature men? They shouldn't have kids until they grow up and sort themselves out. If I ruled the world ..
Yeah, I often wonder what would have happened if Jamie and I had a bio child together... A girl would have been nice too.