My eldest and I were talking about mental processes and processing and cleaning the other day XD He was saying how his younger siblings had to meditate and do self reflection and I was saying it was cool that he could meditate to do that but youngest might have to find another way as I can't meditate in the traditional sense and he might not be able to either. Apparently eldest looks back at his 15-16yo phase and cringes and so is trying very hard to accelerate the younger two through it as quickly as possible so they don't stay "cringe" as long as he thinks he did, told him that unfortunately their brains might not be ready to let go of that phase until it is and no amount of pushing will make it more ready because with some developmental stuff, brains just do whatever they're gonna do regardless of how desperately we try to force a change/development sooner.
Over the lifetime of my kids I've been wondering why some topics are so "taboo" and am currently at a loose conclusion that it's to do with what seems to be most people's debating styles ofapproaching from the point of view of I've done all the research and considered all the options/this has always been like this/everyone around me thinks the same therefore I am absolutely and completely right and there can be no other option and anyone who disagrees with me is absolutely and completely wrong because they just are. When you have that kind of attitude, religion, politics and sex/gender stuff (all of which some people intrinsically tie to their identity and thus feel "attacked" and lash out violently if anyone dares to possibly hint at criticising) is pretty much guaranteed to cause fights.
And the money thing seems to be an envy thing, apparently if you let on how much you make you drive your friends away because they think you think you're so much better than them because you make more, and/or you attract a lot of fake friends who just want access to your money.
Then I was left wondering how anyone learned or learned how to deal with anything if you were never allowed to talk about this stuff you just apparently needed to magically know about XD
seeing the ridiculous of older siblings is why the younger are so talented!
I am the fourth in line ;D
But yes, it isn't just the brain development, but I think it also has to be somewhat of a decision to start improving. It can't be forced by others too much.
Yes. They are in areas that are personal and people feel "right" in based on their experience, but there isn't a clear answer as to what is actually right or wrong - it is all opinion. Maths has less variance in this, as an equation works or doesn't.
Everything I know is magic at least!
Culture and environment teach it too, even if not talked about. Then, that identity is built on it and makes it hard to talk about, break, change etc...
Sometimes even the decision isn't enough. At 7 my eldest very desperately wanted to be able to read. They all had Reading Eggs books that they were working through, middle child had pretty much "cracked the code" at 5, but eldest struggled. He cried every time we worked on English as no matter what or how much he tried, his brain simply refused to accept or understand certain blends.
Shortly after turning 8 he marathoned through the Artemis Fowl box set after not being able to read the bigger Dr Seuss books, apparently his brain decided it now just got the things it was refusing before.
Man people are messy.