Do you think you learned some lessons from the first failure, time single, and then going into a new relationship?
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Do you think you learned some lessons from the first failure, time single, and then going into a new relationship?
I think, that I did, but it still was quite a challenge especially in the beginning.
Probably the first lesson I have learned was don't marry someone because she looks hot and has great bumpers 😀
You get used to that really quickly and then all the other stuff comes to the forefront. I also learned that it is good to have at least an equal partner in most aspects like intelligence, accomplishment in life, etc. And it's OK if she is a little ahead of me.
Nobody is perfect and some strengths that your partner has all have a flip side that could be a challenge at times. Like her high achiever drive would sometimes drive you nuts and her keeping the house clean and spotless would sometimes mean that you have to clean up inside your cupboards a bit more than you are used to. While keeping the house clean and uncluttered she would also sometimes throw away or donate things that are really needed a very short time after...
Another lesson that I learned from my journey is that there are a lot of great people out there, but not all are compatible with you and ideally you marry the one that is most compatible with you, commit and make the stuff that is incompatible work.
Perhaps I will learn this for my second marriage...
This is what many people don't get I reckon. People aren't very good at working out how to deal with things that don't match their ideals, but expect everyone to accept them the way they are.