Hey there lovely people! This is my first post in this awesome community I discovered while searching for a community to share some reflective thoughts on my personal experience. You see, In life, there are moments when forgiveness emerges as both a challenge and a profound source of strength. Lately, I've been dealing with the challenge of forgiveness in an unexpected clash with my Dad's Personal Assistant, a woman who, despite her valuable contributions, harbored a tendency of tarnishing others' reputation.
Just two days ago, I succumbed to the mounting frustration and, regrettably, let my emotions dictate my actions. Confronting her seemed like the only way to put an end to the negativity she propagated. However, the complexity of the situation became evident when I considered her indispensable role in caring for my beloved father, who relies on her for essential support.
In a moment of clarity, I recognized the conflict between my desire for justice and the potential repercussions on my Dad's well-being. It was a serious dilemma that forced me to confront the challenging question: does forgiveness make us appear weak, or is it a testament to our inner strength?
At first, I was determined to cut off connections with the assistant, thinking her actions deserved such a drastic step. But after thinking more, I struggled with the idea that my decision might unintentionally hurt my Dad, who relied on her help for his well-being. Yes, I considered telling my father to find someone else to replace her. However, you see, her connection to the family dates back to before I was even born, and making such a decision would be difficult.
The inner conflict got stronger as I thought about the impact of forgiving compared to the overall benefit it could bring. Despite the assistant's imperfections, I realized that my Dad's well-being was more important. I decided to forgive not because I'm weak, but because it takes great strength to prioritize the happiness of someone I care about.
I learned that forgiveness goes beyond waiting for someone to say sorry. It's a choice to let go of anger, not necessarily for the other person but for our own peace. It reminds me of what my Dad taught me – forgiving is like a gift we give ourselves, lifting the weight of anger from our hearts.
Honestly, forgiving is a tough journey. It means facing the hurt, admitting our mistakes, and being open. But in this openness, there's a special kind of strength – the strength to go beyond the trouble, choose compassion, and create a space for healing.
As things calm down and I deal with the consequences of my choice, I stick to my belief that forgiveness isn't a sign of weakness but shows how strong the human spirit can be. By forgiving for my Dad's sake, I found a surprising source of strength within me – the strength to move past personal issues for the greater good and uphold values of compassion and family love.
Do you think this is a good decision to make? Are there other possible ways to go about this? I would be happy to hear your thoughts on this.
Thanks for reading,
Willy.
Welcome to the community.
I don't know what actually transpired, but I also question whether forgiveness is possible or, it is only possible while convenient. The next time they do something similar, is it a reminder of the last, or a new event?
That's one of the things I keep thinking about. I guess there are certain things we need tolerance and not forgiveness, because it seems it's their nature and you just can't help it.
Thanks so much for taking time to read dear friend. Also thank you for the upvote. I was a little under the weather that's why I responded late.🙏
You did the right thing. It makes no difference who has wronged us; we must forgive them whether they realise it or not. This is for our own good. How can we sleep comfortably if we hold grudges and are angry at them?
I learned all of this because many people had hurt me before. Some have come forward to apologise, while others have done nice things for me, without saying sorry but I know what they meant.
What I do know is that people who are unable to forgive others usually have difficulty sleeping at night. This is true since I know someone who has trouble sleeping and occasionally wakes up because they recall their past experiences.
Why is their sleep being interrupted? Because there is no forgiveness and they keep grudges in their hearts for a long time. Saying sorry doesn't mean you are weak, but it's shows that you are more mature to handle things wisely. 🤗
Wow, thank you so much mom. I really needed to hear these words. I was a little under the weather that's why am responding a bit late.
Somewhere in the afternoon, I swallowed my ego and went to apologies to her for overreacting. I really didn't want situation where I'd have to see her and pass by without saying nothing. I just can't tension between me and someone else. I might as well just take the blame even though I know the other person is at fault.
If it means saving the entire ship from confusion and tension, am always ready to. I guess that's why people see me to be weak.😔. But like you said, am able to sleep comfortably without bitterness in my heart.
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this out for me. ♥️♥️♥️
Welcome to the community! It's my first time here too. It's impressive how you've navigated the forgiveness dilemma, considering the complexities involved. Making decisions for the greater good while upholding compassion and family values shows true strength. It's a tough situation, and everyone's journey with forgiveness is unique.
Wow, thanks so much. I also take this opportunity to welcome you dear friend. Well, today, I went to her and apologized for over reacting to her. I really had to swallow my ego for the greater Good.
I believe it was Worth it. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and leave a comment. I sincerely appreciate it
Yeah, it is.
My pleasure.