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I have always heard that most of the beauty in life and relationships lies in small things.
And in the search for beauty and importance in the simplest acts, or in the smallest details, we are able to see beyond what may seem most obvious, but in fact is not.
And love is one of the feelings that dwells in the little things. Have no doubt about that.
Realize that no one will ever love you exactly the way you want to be loved. It is impossible for two people to have completely overlapping feelings and actions. And the human beauty of that feeling lies precisely there.
Our partner may even get up earlier than us every day and make us breakfast... Or they may always want to make the bed and tidy the room before we even think about doing it. These small gestures, although mundane and very simple, are small gestures of love.
They are doing something for us... and that something is love.
Even if our partner doesn't say “I love you,” or even seems like they don't love us, they actually do. And we can see it in the little things they do, in the knowing and discreet looks they give us. In a loving note, or even a very direct one, that they leave on the table before going to work.
When we point out their flaws; when we tell them they didn't do this or that; when we tell them they didn't say this or that... what actually happens is that they start thinking about everything else.
They start thinking: “How come you didn't see all the other things I did or said?”
And when that thought pops into someone's head, it's very difficult to get it out.
And you can be sure that by pointing out small faults in others, you are discouraging them from loving you. We cannot encourage someone to love us by telling them we are disappointed. No one will ever give you more, simply because you made them feel bad.
People will love you more when they see that you notice and rejoice in all the little things they have done out of love for you.
It is not grand gestures of love that will sustain a relationship and a life in the long term. These can also be important, of course. But what is truly most valuable is knowing how to find love in the smallest things around us. In the smallest gesture. In the most shy and authentic smile.
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