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Sometimes the best people around us bring out the worst in us. And the worst people, on the other hand, bring out the best in us. The kindest people end up only getting the pain. And the meanest people manage, almost magically, to bring us joy. The genuine ones get our silence, and sometimes even our indifference, and the fake ones get our attention. The most loyal end up with only our doubts. The disloyal have, almost consistently, our trust and our certainties. Those who remain by our side, even in the worst of times, only get the response of our frustrations. And those who do not stay and do not remain get our patience and benevolence. We offer our apologies to strangers, and our harshest words to those who are closest and dearest to us. We hide our tenderness from those who are safe, and give our smiles and sympathy to those who have hurt us...
This is the real tragedy of human behavior. We misplace our best energies.
But why is this so? Do we have a constant need to seek more acceptance from those we don't yet “know” or who don't like us?
Why are we ashamed to tell a friend that we like them? And likewise, when something is bothering us, are we able to say so? Why don't we share more good things with those who love us and are close to us? Our tendency is to share with those we trust, but we end up sharing fears, apprehensions, and sometimes even somewhat dark thoughts that have nothing to do with our experience with that person. We talk about news that shocked us, but we rarely compliment them on how they look today.
In the little time we share with our friends or family, how much of that time are we really in contact with them? And of that time, how much is spent not arguing or not constantly contradicting each other?
We make the people who love us most into someone who, because they love us, we think should be our mirror image, should think the same way we do, or should always accept us no matter what. We are only careful with our words with those who don't know us. With those who are close to us, we sometimes even use completely inappropriate language.
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I wonder if it is a Pareto principle split, where our social selves seek validation from strangers in the community, because network matters for our survival - at least historically. 80 percent of energy goes to growing, or the "new" - while the 20% goes to the people we take for granted, under the assumption they will always be there.
Interesting choice of image. Back in 2018 I did a trip to Auschwitz with Hive people, and it was one of the most amazing things I have seen. The orderly horror of the process is incredible. People are amazing - amazingly good, and amazingly bad.
There is something so bizarre about the human behavior, that sometimes not even the most disconnect idea could make sense. If only we could envolve and become better versions of ourself...
As human beings that we are, often times we neglect the most important things and people that are in front of us and end up chasing after those things or people that are far from our reach.
I don't know if the word "reverse psychology" best describes this human nature that we exhibit but the fact that we seek approval, acceptance or even acknowledgement from those that don't really matter, it shows that not everything is straightforward when it comes to human emotions.
It was a great read @xrayman and Thank you for sharing
I would agree with you in that idea. So much strangeness in our behavior, that sometimes we only remind crazy lunatic living being
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