you know how sometimes you see someone just... own a room? Like, they walk in, talk easily, don't seem bothered by much? And maybe you've thought, "Man, I wish I had that kind of natural confidence. Must be nice to be born with it.
Yeah, I used to think that exactly. Like, some people just popped out of the womb radiating self-assurance, right? But honestly? After going through my own stuff... I started to see it differently.Let me share a little story from my own life.
Growing up As a kid, I didn’t really think much about confidence. I wasn't super loud or anything, but I also didn't walk around feeling less than anyone. I was just... me. Totally cool with that. Then? Secondary school hit. and with it, a level of criticism I’d never known. See, I’m naturally dark in complexion, and some classmates decided that was the perfect target for jokes, —some of the most absurd things you can imagine. At first, it felt silly, like we were all just messing around. But then it stopped being funny and started feeling like a spotlight on every insecurity I never knew I had. It started to feel... heavy. Embarrassing. Really overwhelming. I remember one day in junior secondary, I almost cried in class because the comments hurt so much. It became overwhelming.
Over time, I got used to it—sad but true. That phase is over. I toughened up." But looking back? Oh man, those words? They dug in deep. They chipped away at something inside me, that easy comfort I used to have in just being me. It broke this little protective shell I didn't even know I had as a kid. Getting that quiet confidence back? It took time.
What helped? First, I had to learn to accept and appreciate myself the way I was. I realized I was Not Dumb—like, actually smart—which gave me a little boost of “Hey, I’ve got something going on here.” But I didn’t stop there. I started hanging out with people who lifted me up, who encouraged me instead of tearing me down. Bit by bit, I felt my old self returning, only stronger.
This was a truly insightful read! 🌟 You broke down a topic that many of us often wonder about but rarely explore deeply why some people just seem naturally better at things. I really appreciated how you emphasized the role of consistent effort, mindset, and unseen struggles behind visible success. It’s a timely reminder that talent might give someone a head start, but discipline, patience, and perseverance are what sustain the journey. 💪🔥 Thanks for sharing such a motivating piece of definitely bookmarking this for those days when self-doubt creeps in. 🙌💯
I'm really sorry about that i wasn't really on my phone actually someone helped me out to comment I didn't know the person used AI. I definitely make sure i keep everything in check next time and know how to handle everything right ✌️
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Self-confidence is a quality I lacked for years especially during childhood and teenage age but at a point, I said to myself. Rise up. Build confidence and here I am today with confidence. Whoever is lacking it need to build it the way we do build house
Powerful!!!
Your post is quite energizing.
Self discovery and the people one associates with are very important in building confidence.
One Statement that helped me build my self confidence is " I am wonderfully made" I never stop reminding myself of this all the time.