Es un valor esencial para la convivencia, hay un refrán el cual refiere que “hablando se entiende la gente”, lo substancial no es hablar, sino el entendimiento. Dentro del dialogo como primera fase debe haber algo vital, la sinceridad, exponer la verdad de cada quien no debe ser un obstáculo, cada quien tendrá una, mas siempre se puede hallar ese punto intermedio llamado equilibrio y que sin duda mueve al mundo.
Donde existe el diálogo como medio para relacionarnos es factible que haya entendimiento, por ello acostumbro a ponerlo en práctica, ya que se puede originar acuerdos y que esto facilite el desarrollo de una actividad, de una amistad o una relación. La manera de mirar, de gesticular, el tono empleado, un momento o un lugar pueden romper, abrir u obstruir las ventanas a la comunicación. La táctica no verbal acompaña y acentúa el verbo, en caso de no ser la adecuada tendemos a dar valor y preferencia a la expresión del rostro, la postura, la mirada o el gesto. De esta la mirada es crucial, al mirar al otro siempre hay un mundo que descubrimos y que sin duda interviene en el dialogo y en la forma que este adopte.
Los expertos en esto aseguran que proporcionamos mayor credibilidad a lo que percibimos que a lo que oímos. El 60% de la atención mencionan va hacia lo que vemos por medio de la expresión facial y los gestos; que un 30% se dirige hacia el tono de voz, esto es lo que se llama “comunicación paralingüística” y alrededor del 10% pertenece al contenido del mensaje. Por ello en ocasiones no es importante el mensaje sino el mensajero, hay un viejo adagio que asegura que: Grita tanto lo que veo…que no puedo oír lo que me dices”, por ello como parte de nuestra disposición al dialogo deben ser considerados todos estos factores como esenciales para conseguirlo de manera exitosa. Así me resulta fácil dialogar.
Es substancial atender las formas con las que negociamos porque de allí depende la implicación, el interés o no de quienes nos escuchan. El cuerpo y el rostro; no se silencian, cosa que si podemos hacer con las palabras. La existencia y las necesidades se modifican, inclusive la manera de comunicarnos, está en constate transformación. Mas lo que nunca mudará de aires es la necesidad del hombre y mujer por dialogar y referirse con otras personas alcanzando por medio de este el equilibrarse con todos los que le rodean. Sin embargo es esencial primero tener un dialogo interior sano, sincero, esta estrategia nunca falla, dispuestos para poder enfrentar con otros esta actividad tan humana y tan divina, porque “el verbo estaba con dios y es Dios”.
According to St. John: "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. Words, that is to say, language is what makes us human, they have the power to solve problems, to move us, as for example when we read a poem or get upset for any reason. To dialogue is to use the word in its maximum splendor, it is to converse with other people about our ideas, thoughts, feelings, while listening to the same in the other.
It is an essential value for coexistence, there is a saying which refers that "people understand each other by talking", what is substantial is not talking, but understanding. Within the dialogue as a first phase there must be something vital, sincerity, exposing the truth of each one should not be an obstacle, each one will have one, but you can always find that middle ground called balance and that undoubtedly moves the world.
Where there is dialogue as a means to relate to each other, it is feasible that there is understanding, that is why I usually put it into practice, since it can lead to agreements and this facilitates the development of an activity, a friendship or a relationship. The way of looking, of gesturing, the tone used, a moment or a place can break, open or obstruct the windows to communication. The non-verbal tactic accompanies and accentuates the verb; if it is not the right one, we tend to give value and preference to the expression of the face, the posture, the look or the gesture. In this regard, the look is crucial, when looking at the other person there is always a world that we discover and that undoubtedly intervenes in the dialogue and in the form it takes.
Experts say that we give more credibility to what we perceive than to what we hear. They mention that 60% of the attention goes to what we see through facial expression and gestures; that 30% is directed towards the tone of voice, this is what is called "paralinguistic communication" and about 10% belongs to the content of the message. That is why sometimes it is not the message that is important but the messenger, there is an old adage that states that: It shouts so much what I see...that I cannot hear what you say to me", therefore as part of our willingness to dialogue all these factors must be considered as essential to achieve it successfully. This makes it easy for me to engage in dialogue.
It is essential to pay attention to the ways in which we negotiate because the involvement and interest or not of those who listen to us depends on it. The body and the face are not silenced, something that we can do with words. Existence and needs change, even the way we communicate is in constant transformation. But what will never change is the need of men and women to dialogue and refer to other people, reaching through this the balance with all those around them. However, it is essential first to have a healthy and sincere inner dialogue, this strategy never fails, ready to face with others this so human and so divine activity, because "the word was with God and is God".