I recall when I live in USA that February 14th was a day that I kind of loathed when I was in a relationship. Commercialism in that country dictates that the man is obligated to spend a ton of money on their girl to go to fine dining establishments, buy jewelry, get gifts that probably wont be appreciated anyway and all for what? Because someone invented a holiday I suppose. I recall struggling to get reservations and then being treated to crazy prices as some places invented "special menus" that were the only options on those days and of course, they were really high priced.
I do have a girlfriend now in Thailand, but I am happy to say that the holiday here does exist, but the commercialism doesn't.
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In Thailand, Valentines day still has some of the usual things like roses associated with it, but that is basically the end of it. According to what I have been told you are meant to purchase a single rose for the "one you love" and that is all there is to it. There is no expectation of a fancy dinner or vacations or expensive nights out. Just the flower, that is all. A rose here costs less than a dollar and this is something I can get behind. I think the main reason why this is the case is because a vast majority of people are quite poor here and to attempt to build anything else out of the basically made up holiday wouldn't be something that most people could even dream of participating in. I am sure there are some multi-millionaires out there that still get all lavish with their gifts but I don't know anyone that has anything to do with it.
My girlfriend has been with me for this will be our 2nd Valentine's Day and last year I got her a dozen roses and while it was appreciated she later told me that this is wasteful and in the future I need to only get her one and the sentiment will be the same. Well, that works for me! I don't really like these holidays that have been dictated by some industry and am for the most part happy that holidays like Christmas don't really exist here either. hell, even birthdays are not an event where you are meant to shower someone with gifts.
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Sure you could spend a bunch of money and do stupid crap like this but the point here is that this is not expected. If you live in a part of the world where there are pressures for you to be spending money all the time I guess I will say that feel sorry for you and I am happy that this is, at least for now, not at all a part of my life.
If you have the kind of loved one in your life that expects you to break the bank on this very silly holiday then I feel bad for you. I'm really happy that my girl doesn't really care about Feb 14th at all.
Hello! I agree with your girlfriend. I'm just looking at the practical side of things, after all it's the thought that counts. What's also important is having the feeling that we are appreciated on normal days, not just on Valentine's day. This should also go both ways. I believe men also need to feel the same. Yes, sometimes too much commercialism kind of dictates us how we should behave or what is expected from us. This makes us more focused on material things, and so we forget on what's more truly valuable.
this year when I gave her the flower she just smiled and threw it on the table. haha. it wasn't that she didn't want it, she just doesn't care and feels as though this is something that teenagers do. I respect her for that .
Hehe... Or is it because she prefers a different type of flower? hmmm.. I am just joking. I guess when we feel loved and secured, we don't need any fancy stuff.
And I am happy to know that I'm not only one who doesn't celebrate valentine's day hahaha. Salute to your girl for being so practical and simple ❣️🥰. Everyday is already special, and what makes it for more special is by simply living it. Spending fortunes won't guarantee that a person will always be always happy 😁.
if I had a gf that needed me to be spending money on her in order for her to be happy she wouldn't stay my gf for very long.
It really depends to the person how she or he value this day.From my point of view,people should remember that it doesn't mean it's February 14 your partner is obliged to give you something just to prove that they really treasure you. As long as, your happy with your relationship that's the most important part no fancy things mattered than that. But I can't blame other people if they also want to be feel being special. We do have different love languages. Communication is the key.
That's what I like about living in Thailand. Everything there is cheap. So you can really survive even if you only have a minimum wage.😁
Oh, Fun Fact. In Japan, it is the women who give gifts to their boyfriend or husbands - or the men they like. Well, at least that's what my Japanese students told me.😁
I never knew that about Japan. I guess it's one more reason to move to japan! haha
The thought is what counts and nothing else so yes the Thai woman are trained and bought up correctly lol.
Happy valentine's day to you. It's time to show and give them something in this day.
Valentine’s day for us as a couple lover is to spend time for each other even if we don’t have a pricey things to show a love. Here in my country we are not always giving each other an expensive things to show our love to each other. Not only a man gives to the woman because our loved we give is enough the flowers,chocolates and other gifts is a bonus. The people here is not demanding to pleased their man to buy a expensive one and if the woman afford to give a gift for his lover she did it unconditionally with love.
valentines day is for all of us that we have good heart, maybe it depends on us how on how we celebrate without pressure or spending money, Happy Valentine Day!
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We can actually show our love to the important people in our lives every day in our own unique ways. It’s up to each person whether they choose to spend money or take a more practical approach. I appreciate the way your girlfriend thinks—being practical is a great quality, and I’m the same way. However, for those who prefer to express their love in grand or expensive ways because it brings them joy, that’s entirely their choice. As long as they can afford it, they’re free to do so! After all, I believe that the happiness you bring to your loved one is truly priceless.
i think it would make you feel better if he were to just get you a gift on a wednesday, just because he wanted to, not because some holiday dictates that he has to.
yep. if you feel the need to get a flower one day, get a flower! It will be so much more appreciated than if someone "has to do it" because of a certain number on a calendar.
yep, I totally agree. The relationships that are centered around material things probably wont last
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