Well, I wish I had someone too. I realized I missed a lot because I didn't have anyone to guide me. Most times this only means that we now have to spend a lot of time for something that's not supposed to take that much time. Imagine if I knew how the market worked in 2021, perhaps I could have been in a comfortable position, but it has taken me an extra 4 years, something I could have learned in 6 months.
I like the figuring it out approach, it's a hands on way to gather experience.
When people are their own teacher, they have no option but to learn better and smarter.
That's exactly it! The time aspect. It takes longer to achieve the position you envision for yourself. Learning through trial and error is very costly time wise.