Hola amigos virtuales, feliz martes de talentos. Llegó diciembre, un mes muy emotivo, pero también de mucha reflexión, un tiempo que ha pasado volando, un año que ha dejado muchas experiencias, pero que, aunque termina en algunas semanas, no queda para nosotros ahí; nuestro contador se reinicia con cada año y aprendemos sobre los aciertos y desaciertos.
Soltar aquello que nos lastimó es, sin lugar a dudas, un buen ejercicio para despedir un año y reiniciarnos en lo que deseamos sea un venturoso año nuevo. Siempre he creído que es necesario pasar la página, olvidar y continuar, pero no olvidar, porque si olvidamos, caemos nuevamente, por lo que prefiero siempre recordar, pero sin que eso afecte mi futuro.
Hace un par de años tuve una amiga virtual con la que me sentí muy identificada; compartíamos a diario vía telefónica, éramos muy cercanas, yo le contaba mis cosas, ella a mí y la aconsejábamos constantemente sobre temas que la incomodaban. La consideraba una buena amiga, pero siempre he considerado que una buena amiga, aun en desacuerdos, te respeta, y no soy de las personas que tolera falta de respeto y menos de alguien a quien le he brindado mi amistad.
Hello virtual friends, happy Talent Tuesday. December has arrived, a very emotional month, but also one of much reflection, a time that has flown by, a year that has left many experiences, but that, although it ends in a few weeks, it does not remain there for us; Our counter resets with each year and we learn about the successes and failures.
Letting go of what hurt us is, without a doubt, a good exercise to say goodbye to a year and restart what we hope will be a happy new year. I have always believed that it is necessary to turn the page, forget and continue, but not forget, because if we forget, we fall again, so I prefer to always remember, but without that affecting my future.
A couple of years ago I had a virtual friend with whom I felt very identified; We shared things daily by phone, we were very close, I told her my things, she told me, and we constantly advised her on issues that made her uncomfortable. I considered her a good friend, but I have always considered that a good friend, even in disagreements, respects you, and I am not one of the people who tolerates lack of respect and even less of someone to whom I have given my friendship.
Siempre he creído que aun con una postura en cierto tema, un amigo debate contigo sobre eses tema y aunque no coincidan en lo mismo, ambas posturas se respetan, se dialoga sobre el tama y aun en desacuerdos no se ofende. Y esto ocurrió, en el primer desacuerdo viendose que no tenía la razón, esta supuesta amiga no respeto mi postura y sin alegatos comenzó a atacarme, quise evitar el problema y fui evasiva sin dejar mi postura, pero ella solo quiso atacar.
Y un simple desacuerdo la llevó a atacar a mi familia en sus cmentarios, y una verdadera amistad jamás haría eso, así que entendí que ella no era realmente mi amiga, solo era alguién que me necesitaba para que la escuchara y le diera consejos y que solo me utilizaba porque no tenía amigas porque quienes la conocías ya sabían como ella era de volatil cuando no se pensaba igual que ella y su respuesta siempre era el ataque.
Pero esto era algo que yo no descubrí sino en tiempos de desacuerdo, así que me puse a analizar su vida, su entorno y su interacción con su familia y entendí que ella era una persona completamente vacía, con una mala relación sentimental, con una pareja cuya familia no la quiere y muestra una relación pública perfecta, aun cuando sabe que solo vive de apariencias porque critica a quienes la tratan bien y a sus propios familiares directos, mientras que finje sonrisas para las fotos cuando su alma está completamente vacía.
I have always believed that even if you have a certain opinion on a topic, a friend will debate it with you, and even if you don't agree, both positions are respected, you discuss the topic, and even if you disagree, you don't take offense. And this is what happened. When we had our first disagreement and she saw that she was wrong, this supposed friend did not respect my position and, without any arguments, began to attack me. I wanted to avoid the problem and was evasive without changing my position, but she just wanted to attack.
A simple disagreement led her to attack my family in her comments, and a true friend would never do that, so I understood that she wasn't really my friend, she was just someone who needed me to listen to her and give her advice, and she was only using me because she didn't have any friends, because those who knew her already knew how volatile she was when you didn't agree with her, and her response was always to attack.
But this was something I only discovered in times of disagreement, so I began to analyze her life, her environment, and her interaction with her family, and I understood that she was a completely empty person, with a bad romantic relationship, with a partner whose family doesn't love her, and she shows a perfect public relationship, even though she knows she only lives for appearances because she criticizes those who treat her well and her own immediate family, while she fakes smiles for photos when her soul is completely empty.
Así que puse a analizar y entendí lo desafortunada e infeliz que era esa amiga y que su arma siempre sería el ataque, y entendí que una amistad que no suma a mi vida no debo conservarla, que es momento de soltar y evitar personas tóxicas en nuestra vida, y esto aplica para amistades e incluso familias.
La vida y el tiempo me han enseñado a aprender a librar mis batallas y a saber de quién alejarme y por quién vale la pena luchar y sí, en el camino de este proceso resulta incómodo entenderlo e incluso doloroso, porque hay muchas personas que nos defraudan, pero eso habla de ellos, no de quiénes somos nosotros. Así que es necesario soltar, y dejar de perder el tiempo en lo que no nos sume, en lo que nos agobie y reiniciarnos constantemente, buscando siempre bienestar y equilibrio en todos los aspectos de nuestra vida.
So I analyzed the situation and realized how unfortunate and unhappy that friend was, and that her weapon would always be attack. I understood that I shouldn't keep a friendship that doesn't add value to my life, that it's time to let go and avoid toxic people in our lives, and this applies to friendships and even family.
Life and time have taught me to fight my own battles and to know who to distance myself from and who is worth fighting for. Yes, along the way, it's uncomfortable and even painful to understand, because many people disappoint us, but that says something about them, not about who we are. So it's necessary to let go and stop wasting time on what doesn't add value to our lives, on what overwhelms us, and to constantly reset, always seeking well-being and balance in all aspects of our lives.
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