To go to college or not? To take this career or that? To work in one place or another? To live here or somewhere else? To start a relationship with someone or stay single? To get married or not? To have children or not? These are all questions that at some point every person asks themselves, at least some of them. Or maybe not, maybe you never asked yourself any of these questions, but surely you have asked yourself others that you consider as transcendental as any of them. You know, that point in which a situation is presented in front of you in which you have to decide something that apparently will change your life, and at the same time brings with it a kind of line of no return, after making the decision there seems to be no possibility of going back. The experience of having made that decision will mean a change in you and in your way of seeing things about something specific, even if the impact is very important, then it is possible that you will rethink everything about everything.
In appearance, life seems to follow a structure similar to that of the script of a novel or a movie, with its own characteristics of course. In the story of each one of us there are situations in which we have to decide, and which we know in anticipation that we will face.
From an early age we are asked: What would you like to do when you grow up? You know that you don't have to definitively answer that question at that time, but you also know that at a certain point you will have to make that decision. So you have the expectation that the time to make that decision will come, and then you will have to decide.
Everyone faces these types of decisions throughout their lives, each in their own way, for some the nature of these questions have to do with work, for others with their love life or how to deal with family traditions, each with their respective complexities. The important thing about these decision points is that they are relatively obvious to each of us, and some may even feel that after making this decision the rest of the way will run on autopilot, like taking the train or plane to a certain destination.
However, an interesting thing about all this is that despite all the anxiety or expectation that any of these supposedly important decisions generate in us, is that many times none of these decisions will actually be transcendent. Maybe some of them will be important, obviously, but not necessarily all of them.
Unfortunately most people learn this lesson only after gaining experience, and sometimes the experience is not even enough. Facing these types of situations as irresolvable and definitive moments can be a particularly negative approach, and this is because it is unlikely that any or some of these decisions are really definitive, taking a situation and making it almost as extreme as a life or death situation, in fact, can be the cause that leads us to decide wrong in the first place.
