Love! They say love is a beautiful thing and one of the most important days in the life of an individual is the say they say YES to forever with their better half.
As the new journey begins, so does new discoveries in each other, you get to know and see the real attitude of your spouse.
I have always heard from some married people that "marriage is like a school where you keep learning" and it takes a lot of patience, understanding and above all Love in order to remain in it.
Which brings about the third and final task for our October #dreemport challenge which is to find a couple who has been married for the longest and interview them on how their love journey has been going.
The couple I interviewed is Mr and Mrs Adeniyi, they were my former bosses from the previous place I worked and despite the fact that I no longer work in their organization, we still keep in touch once in a while.
I asked to interview them and they obliged but they didn't give the permission to share their pictures for personal reasons and I respected their decision.
These are some of the questions I prepared for my interview with them;
- How long have you been married?
- How long did you court for before tying the knot?
- What were your challenges in the early years of your marriage?
- How do you settle conflicts?
- What advice would you give young couples/ Single people who would tie the knot sometime in the future?
I tried to make sure that my questions were not too much so as not to take their time and also I remembered when I worked with them, I knew the man to be someone who can talk for hours if given the chance 😃😃😃. So in order not to make the post too lengthy, I settled on those five questions and despite that their response to these questions are very lengthy but I will summarize it in the best way I can.
- How long have you been married?
"We have been married for 15 years, and it's wasn't always easy but if given the choice in our life, I will choose her all over again", these were the exact words of Mr Adeniyi.
- How long did you court for before tying the knot?
The second question made both of them look at each other lovingly and laughed. Mrs Adeniyi spoke this time around, talking about how she made him chase her to her satisfaction before she finally agree to court him and this earned another round of laughter from her husband. She mentioned that they courted for two years before tying the knot.
- What were your challenges in the early years of your marriage?
When I asked this question, Mr Adeniyi heaved a sigh of relief, saying he gives thanks to God for everything as he recounted how it was not all rosy during the first years of their marriage as they disagree on a lot of things which brings about quarrels and he said that remembering that they both swore an oath before their creator to cherish each other made it easy for them to get through any challenges they face together. Here Mrs Adeniyi chipped in and talked about Understanding and Supporting each other.
- How do you settle conflicts?
"We have never called in a third party", said Mrs Adeniyi. We knew very well that nobody is perfect so not washing our dirty linen in public is something we both approve of.
"The truth is that everyone has their own issues", Mr Adeniyi chipped in, so how do we expect someone to come solve our problems when they might have their own problems unsolved. They said and I quote " we know we are in this together, so we solve our issues together".
- What advice would you give young couples/ Single people who would tie the knot sometime in the future?
My advice to young couples and singles who have the intention to marry sometime in the future is that " Sometimes love is not enough". This is where other things come into play. Always looking out for each other, Forgiveness, Transparency, Support and Understanding is some of the virtues that should be embedded in us.
At the end of the interview I must say that I enjoyed this listening to them and I learned a lot from it. Indeed one never stops learning as what works for a family isn't the case for another but in all I think both parties needs to work together in order to stay together.
Thank you all for reading.
This is my response to the Dreemport Love Month Challenge
I enjoyed reading this interview. Fifteen years is such a long time to be married but in the end, what is meant to be would be. These couple are really admirable, they make marriage look so beautiful.
Yes they are, Which is one of the reasons why I love their family.
I guess some couples tend to court longer before marriage in order to know each other more.
The whole third party involvement in the resolving conflict is never a good idea, done of them make the matter worst.
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You are correct third parties sometimes makes matters worst because they would have gained the knowledge of what is lacking in your home and use it against you.
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I love this family, learning to settle your dispute as couple without involving a third party is a sign of maturity. Every home has their challenges, inviting someone who has not finished tackling the problems in their homes to settle yours doesn't sound wise to me. Afterwards most people only want to know where is leaking in your home so that they can use it against you
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Exactly, everyone has their own problems. Solving it together is very good and help protect your integrity as a couple.
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I couldn't help but imagine how the interview must have gone, and how engaging it was. I like the energy of the couple already. 15 years is not a small thing. I am even very impressed that they made it this far and can still laugh when they look at one another. That's true love. I have learned yet another set of tips for my own marriage. Thank you for bring this to me. #dreemport
As in the way they always look at each other lovingly makes you know that love is beautiful.
Good thing you learned few pointers yourself. Thank you for stopping by.
Nice interview and it is nice you didn't make it too long.
I love the part where they do not wash their dirty linen outside.
Resolving issues by yourself is the best. We hope no conflict becomes unresolved but it is still not the best inviting people into your marriage. Great lesson learned, thanks
Thank you. I'm glad you enjoyed reading and also learned from it.
Yay! 🤗
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