A great deal of your anger involves your defense against loss of self-esteem, when people criticize you, disagree with you, or fail to behave as you want them to. Such anger is always inappropriate because only your own negative distorted thoughts can cause you to lose your self-esteem. When you blame others for your feelings of worthlessness, you are always fooling yourself.
It's important to know that there are situations where anger can be a valid and healthy response. For instance, if someone is being disrespected or treated unfairly, expressing anger assertively can be a way to set boundaries and advocate for oneself.
However, it's crucial to distinguish between healthy anger and toxic anger that is rooted in the need to protect a fragile sense of self-esteem. When our self-worth is solely dependent on external validation, any perceived criticism or disagreement can feel like a personal attack, leading to disproportionate anger.
Instead of blaming others for our feelings, it's crucial to take responsibility for our own emotional responses. This involves challenging negative thoughts and developing healthy coping mechanisms to deal with criticism and setbacks. By building resilience and fostering a sense of self-worth independent of external validation, we can navigate disagreements and challenging situations with greater composure and emotional intelligence."
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The first paragraph quotes directly from David D. Burns' book, Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. The remaining text summarizes the book and shares my personal experience with the topics. The information presented has been verified by multiple sources across the web. Also, different AIs have checked the text for grammar, punctuation, plagiarism, clarity, and general correctness. But no part of the text is generated by AI. While I'm a writer and psychology enthusiast, I'm not an expert. For professional guidance, please consult a qualified psychologist.
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I have seen someone that instead of him to agree of his mistakes he will used the anger on another person and tries to blame it on the person, abused of anger need to be checked.
Thanks for sharing dear friend.
I used to be like that, blaming others for my wrongdoings and the anger that came with it. It took me a long time to learn that I'm responsible for my own actions, behavior, and emotions. By the way thanks for the comment and reblog, I really appreciate it.
You are welcome dear friend.