I watched a video of a child whose parents took to school to resume with the school. The little girl was so adamant and stubborn. She wants to avoid listening to anyone's words. It might be that that's what she was taught, or she has been seeing people filled with anger.
She was so angered and decided to spoil things. She truly destroyed many things, including her books and all her clothes. Before then, she was taken to a hostel where she has to stay. She initially accepted, but later refused while alone. Her anger was just too much and while scattering her items and the items in the room, many teachers were watching her. They were not ready to calm her down, but wanted to wait to see her best actions before taking her out or dealing with her.
Now, I have some ways I can deal with such a child.
- Flogging: According to God's words the best is to use cane and remove that madness in her mind as it is said in the Bible that spare not the ride and spoil the child. So, it is better to use cane to flog her to correct her senses. In another way, flogging is not adopted in schools, so one can also use another method, except if the child is at home.
My child cannot try such madness but must ensure to be quiet or else, I have to discipline her by using cane.
watching from a distance allow the child to vent the anger in her but making sure she does not injure herself/classmate. The teachers initially left her alone to kept on with her anger before looking for solution to correct her. So, such child must be kept and left alone to act, and after acting, comes next will be punishing.
ask her or investigate the cause of her anger and venting. As a teacher or a parent, seeing your child in this condition supposed to make you to call her to know the true reasons she has this kind of behavior.
She might have one or several reasons to have put up this act.After the venting and cooling, make her clear, clean, sweep and rearrange all the mess she has done without leaving a pin. This will make her to get a little sense because she has overreacted. No one will help her to pack those mess she has done, so she has to pack those things herself or else, she will be made to sleep in the mess just like that.
Sit her down and make her realize what she has done, and tell her the parents will be responsible for all the damages she has caused. Remember she is not at home, but in the school, so you must make her to know what she has done so that she will not try that again. As a teacher, you wouldn't want others to see what she has done because there are many who will copy her behavior. So, take her to where you can give her lots of advice to calm down her brain.
After that, let her tender apology to the whole class in front of the class, especially the teacher. This will make her know the wrong she has done and will also make others who have seen her not to copy her rude and unruly behavior. So, she must apologize to everyone in her class and will also give round the offices to apologize to the teachers one after the other.
Let her be isolated, sit alone for about two days without anybody interacting or any form of interaction, but her class work and activities should not be affected. This is a character that demands proper isolation so that next time she will learn the effect of what she has done. Isolation should be the best option.
By the end of the isolation, she should have realized the usefulness of human relation and the effect of 5minutes madness in her.
The act of disciplining a child is one of the hardest things to do — and it's not that easy. There's an adage that says, “[home] training begins at home”, so I feel home training should be the first thing before we can talk about school discipline. Some parents, especially in Nigeria, they don't monitor their kids at home, because they don't have all the time for them, maybe because of their daily work which takes a lot of their time and energy, so these kids are likely to misbehave and vent their angers because no one is there every time to give them the proper training and put them in the right way when necessary, so this anger issue developments at home...
Nice Post @cool08
dicipline a child is really hard to do, sometimes we easily lost anger and temper while handling a tantrum kids. and most of the parenting advisor discourage us to also take anger incontrolling that kind of situation.
i am going also to learn amuch as i can when i found my kids do that in the future, and doing the things you mention might be a good plan for me
Exactly bro we shouldn't let our anger control us as parents we need patients, I think we need to advice our kids and let them emulate from the parents than beating and punishing them
It's unfortunate how the trend of discipline is changing around the world. Hence, people should do the job if disciplining their wards from home. Society is not very conducive to forming the character of a child, it rather influences it negatively.
Well said bro actually training a child isn't something that is been done just mere talking it needs a severe action, and to discipline a child is not just by talking or by flogging I think to discipline a child has to do with advice and corrections,
-Very nice article! Well, I have a son, and I never experience this kind of behavior from him. But of course, my son has his naughtiness, one thing I will never do with him is to humiliate him in front of other people. I will isolate him that's the right process, because no matter how big or small the mistake done by a child or adult, humiliating them is not a good way, never let others see they were being punished or receiving sermon. Instead, bring them to a room, let them get calm the natural way. Never let their self-confidence get damaged. Explain their fault, in a way of talking that you are not blaming them. As humans, our anger is being shown differently so we need to level ourselves with it, in that way we could find the proper way to deal with it and help them to regain their composure
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@cool08 behaviors are psychologically ingrained, in Africa we understand flogging, but I believe being able to speak to child would help.
If the behavior persist, then service of skilled psychologist might be employed.
Cane or any form of punishment does not always help.
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