You are right but at the same time i don’t look down on those who don’t know how to figure things out for themselves....partially because until very recently, I was one of them...and also because the pampering my generation and younger received is going to lead to a deeper understanding of what self-love is for many people. Then later we can reintegrate, that aspect of toughness. By “later” I mean these past 4 years for me, perhaps the next few years for many others.
I am not sure if this answer is convoluted, I've made a lot of connections that I didn't bother clarifying but I feel you might understand so I tried to avoid making this into a whole essay