My deepest condolences @dfinney you did the best you could under the circumstances and made the best of what time she had left together. Passing away at home with my family close by was Deb's preferred endgame but her condition became to complex and care too great to be at home especially as my own health became compromised with a neurological issue. Wow, 99 years and she was blessed to have a fine granddaughter.
I hope you don’t regret Deb’s final days. I think there is this glorification if dying at home that doesn’t understand what an emotional, mental and physical toll that takes on the caregiver nor does it fully take into account what is best for the patient. The night before grandma died I was ready to take her off hospice, call 911 and send her to the hospital. Because I didn’t think I could handle what was happening in a way that would be least traumatic for grandma. There is a lot of weight that comes with making these choices for another person. And I think however it plays out we are all doing our best. 💕