I think it was in the movie Desperate Housewives that I first got a glimpse of the concept of surrogacy and what it is all about. In the movie, one of the housewives, Gabrielle, and her husband, Carlos, could not conceive, so they opted in for surrogacy and, quite unfortunately, didn’t go about it the legal way.
They had met a pregnant young woman who didn’t want the baby, as the man responsible had abandoned her. So in order not to take full responsibility for the child, she agreed to hand the baby over to Gabrielle and her husband once birthed. Moving on, everything went as agreed. Only for the young woman to show up one day with the father of the child and the police to take the baby away.
Watching that scene, I was livid, and the anger that I felt was beyond upset because how do you get paid, relinquish every right of your child, only to come back to say, 'Oh, you changed your mind, as you had settled with the father of the child'?
The question is, what happens to the couple who had already built their life around that child? Who had come to terms with the fact that despite life being unfair to them biologically, they finally had a shot at parenthood? It was really an unfair situation for Carlos and Gabrielle, and they seemed to not have much say or right, as there was no legal or documented agreement between them and the young mom.
For quite a long time I pondered on that movie, as from the movie I understood the importance of a legal and documented agreement. Basically humans can be very funny and highly unreliable.Still on the surrogacy issue, I watched another movie, more like a soap opera, Celien and Mago.
What actually happened in that play was that a rich couple could not conceive, as the wife of the rich man could not carry a pregnancy to full term. So the rich man’s wife pleaded with her sister, who agreed to be their surrogate. The gametes were both from the couple, as the sister only had to carry the foetus to full term.
To cut the long story short, the process was successful, as the sister birthed twins, both girls. So one night upon recovering, the sister took one of the twins and disappeared to an unknown destination.
She was eventually found almost two decades later, and her argument was that she birthed the girls and, as a result, is entitled to one of them as their mother. Despite all efforts to explain to her that she isn’t the biological mother, as she was just a vessel, she wasn’t having it, as she held on to the fact that the baby grew in her and she birthed them.
To wrap this up, as time evolved, I saw how strict the process became, especially for the couples involved. The thing is, nobody wants to be taken advantage of, hence the need for lawyers and legal backing, but another thing is why the couples are taking extra steps to fortify themselves as the legal parents of the child; the intending mother or surrogate also needs to take equal steps and understand just what she is getting into. After all, an agreement is an agreement, and ignorance is not an excuse.
I wanted to say much but not when I saw ur last word ..ignorance is not an excuse , again you can't eat your cake and have it, simple
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Same with my thought, both the parent of the child should take action and also the surrogate mother too, agreement is truly an agreement. They both should come up with their decision and agreement.
I have always been hearing about this Housewives movie, the trailer and all, I will love to watch it sometime soon
If I were involved in such a situation, I would take all necessary precautions and many more, in order to create a highly cautious environment. But I prefer never to have to!