During the early days after I graduated from school, I was thrilled with the idea of class reunions. Who wouldn't love mingling with friends and classmates, reminiscing the good 'ol days, and laughing at old jokes but timeless jokes? It was a fun idea if you ask me!
But after attending several catch-ups and get-togethers of elementary, high school, and college classmates, I realized that reality is way different from what I expected reunions will be.
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First, reuniting with your old flings and buddies feel awkward.
Especially when they already have families of their own or have already soared high in their respective careers. Suddenly, the old jokes seem no longer proper, and striking a meaningful conversation feels forced.
I remember meeting my elementary friends after two decades. I felt excited at first but when I saw them I felt left out. Some brought their spouses, some are not really into the moment because they are most of the time preoccupied with their phones. No wonder, the excitement wanes when you realize it's a challenge to reconnect with people you use to hang out with.
Second, most of the reunions I attended ended up as just booze sessions
I have nothing against people who drink. I understand that it is their way of socializing and keeping up with the conversation. It adds spice, so they say.
But the reunions I went to ended up as glorified booze fest, which I am not fond of. My idea of reunions is catching up with what's happening in their lives and recollecting meaningful memories. Until the drinking sessions end up with people bragging about several things and laughing at someone else's "misfortune", or "slow progress", for lack of a better term. I get uncomfortable. Not because I feel insecure, but because it kinda defeats the purpose of meeting together for good time's sake. I guess that's the reason why some of my classmates choose not to attend, and those who insist on going are those who "made it."
But I still want to meet with my former classmates and friends!
Instead of reunions, I opt to meet people in smaller groups, say 1-3 persons at a time, and do it intentionally! We meet at coffee shops, or just have road trips, or just spend time at parks - basically a place conducive to life talks and catching up. Movies are also a great option! Again, drinking is not for me, but catching up over a cup of coffee is always welcome.
Big reunions are great, and I know it works best for some. But personally, I'd rather meet a selected few, and reconnect with them intentionally. Not because I am anti-social, nor I am not fun at parties, but because instead of highlighting progress and "slow movements", who's pregnant and already with kids, who's still single and ready to mingle, and who had the best "glow-up" after graduation, the thing we should be highlighting is how we can remain as friends after the years.
Most reunions always turn out to be events of show offs. We are on the same page, I don't like going for reunion either. I have had a few negative experiences which taught me a lot of lessons and I am not ready to receive another one.
It is so bad that our beloved friends whom we used to crack jokes together are same persons who would love to mock us if we didn't measure up. Instead of extending helping hands to those who are yet coming up, they use that opportunity to make fond of them. Each time I go for a reunion and I hear people talking about their achievements I quickly excuse them because I don't want to be injured or get into a fight with anyone.
Reunion needs to be redefined, people needs to know what it is meant for. Love is seriously lacking in our world, people enjoy seeing others in pains, selfishness and greed has clouded the hearts of many.
Thanks for sharing this with us ♥️
That's the society we find ourselves today, if only some people will drop their pride , reunion will only be what it is meant for. However, my personal experience about reunion was good but I know it can't be good for everyone..
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That is so pathetic 😞, we hope for better days ahead.
Please share it with us mom, I can't wait to read your own experience.
Thanks mom🙃🥰🥰
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I wrote mine yesterday 😂👍
Oh!! Let me check it out 🏃🏃
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Reunion are very tough for some of us. I have experienced most of the things here and it's quite discouraging at times.we are meant to Reunite like the name says and reminisce on our past times in school and try to catch up on what's new in our present lives but instead it turns to a drinking contests and showoff, its just sad. I dig your frustration but I still try to show up just for the few who really value the meeting just like me too😔. I hope in the future we will do better. Thanks for this post as it reminds me of my self and my own reunions too.
Thank you bro. Yea, kinda frustrating at some point but still, reunions are awesome opportunities to catch up with friends :)
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