As humans, we always tend to find ourselves in a state of forgetfulness every now and then no matter how good we at remembering things, it just happens sometimes. Personally, my brain is very cognitive when it comes to some certain things, no matter how I try to let go of those information, it just keeps getting in the way but then, I have come to realize that, the time when I really need some of these information the most, I somehow struggle to remember them.
I have had different experiences when I forget about things and there were some that hurt me so much because I can’t turn back the hand of time. Although, I do believe that as long as we are alive, it means that we still have the opportunity to rewrite our wrongs but most times it’s really not so easy. When I forget about things sometimes, I always find myself wishing that I didn’t. Well, one of those experiences is still very fresh in my head.
It was a friend’s birthday, prior to that day, this friend of mine has always noticed that I hardly ever miss wishing anyone a happy birthday on their birthdays except I don’t know about it. I think this friend of mine already had it somewhere in his mind that there was no way I was going to miss wishing him well on his birthday. Just like that, a day before his birthday, I wished him happy birthday in advance but to my surprise, I didn’t wish him well on the D-day. I was so pained to realize that it took me a whole day to realize that I missed wishing him well on his birthday.
I’m not really someone that cares about things like this but then, I just feel it is worthwhile wishing someone well on their birthdays. And to think that it wasn’t just anyone but a friend, I was hurt and I could only imagine how pained my friend was. I actually had a good reason for forgetting about wishing him well, not that I exactly forgot that day was his birthday, I just got caught up in a lot of activities that the moment I got a break, all I did was go to bed and I woke up to a new day.
Being forgetful is most times as a result of over reliance on self. In my own case, I thought there was no way I’d forget about wishing my friend well but somehow it happened and at that point, it dawned on me that trying to do something all alone most times, is not the best thing. One of the most easiest ways I would have been able to help myself not to forget, was to just set a reminder but no, I trusted myself not to forget and I did. I was really pained about it and even though my friend forgave me, I still knew that it was something that I had a million and one ways to have done better but I still failed.
So now, the step I take towards not forgetting things is by setting reminders on my phone and also, having an accountability partner. I always try my best to talk to someone about things that I wish not to forget and even if peradventure I forget, they can bring it to my remembrance. There might be other ways but these are the major steps I take to avoid being forgetful and it had been quite helpful to me. Since I learnt to accept the fact that I can’t always remember everything all on my own, it has helped me seek for ways to cope and these things have helped me a great deal.
No one is beyond being forgetful, we might find ourselves in that trap every now and then even when you have an accountability partner and even with those reminders but then, it is better to have them than relying completely on yourself to remember everything.
Thanks for reading through. ❤️
Thank you, Amie. ❤️
Good morning dear.
Have a great new week.
I will, you too. 🥰
Thanks
You’re welcome. 🤗
Good morning, love. Forgetfulness is a part of human life. It shows that we are not perfect. Whenever you forget important things, it is important not to beat yourself up too much or lose hope. As long as you're still alive, there is hope. But it can be really painful sometimes.
I find it difficult to remember dates. Most of my friends have gotten angry because of this. They go, “We are friends, but you don’t remember that important detail about me.” I have explained several times to people that I am really not good at these things, even when I try hard. There was a time I forgot my brother’s own. But now, u remember because we share the same date, just different months.
For someone like you who has a very good memory, it is surprising that you forgot to wish your friend on his birthday. Also, it is nice that you have discovered what works for you- reminders.
Thanks for sharing.
Good morning, my darling. 🥰
Yeah, forgetfulness is part of the things that we should expect every now and then. There are just so many things we need to remember, argh!!!
Now I know you are not good at remembering dates, well, you can just tell me about it if you know it’s very important, hehe.
Yes, yes. It’s good to know I already found what works for me to a good extent.
Thanks for stopping by, Evol. 🤭
Hello my friend, it's only natural that I think that humans have the habit of forgetfulness, because this trait is nested in our brains by thinking about some things that are actually not very important, but there are important things that can sometimes make us forget, as usual when we want to say something to our friends, but we forget and want to remember it, But on that day, maybe the thing you want to convey will definitely not be remembered.
Yeah, that’s the reality most times. We can only try to make steps towards helping us forget too many times.
Thanks for your input. 🥰
Forgetting things can be a pain in the ass on most occasions.
I've had to deal with such too on many occasions and it's annoying how a date I had in mind for weeks ended up slipping off my mind on the deal day.
It’s a really painful experience sometimes.
Thanks for your input, GP. 🥰
Even the smartest person forgets and talks more of myself, "I forget things." I think forgetfulness is just part of the human race.
I understand your point of view as to why you forgot to wish your friend a happy birthday; there are times you are so occupied that you won't remember when the clock ticks.
Have a nice day dear😊
I’m happy you can understand my situation, dear. Thanks for stopping by. 🤭
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Thank you. ❤️
Thank you. 🥰
I know I often rely on myself to remember everything, and then it backfires. Setting reminders and having someone to remind you is such a smart move. I think we all learn that lesson at some point that we’re not perfect, and it’s okay to ask for a bit of help.
Yeah, it’s always okay to say it is hard and you need help. That does limit us in anyway, it will only help us get things done faster and better.
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