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We oftentimes, blame distance as the reason why most friendships and relationships do not last.
While this is true, there are still friendships that were created and built despite the distance.
Same way people have physical friends that they can talk to about their problems, share their opinions with them, and have fun, there are still friends that you can do all of these with, but behind the screen. They are the ones we refer to as "online besties."
From my experience, some of the realest friends I have now, I met them online. They came into my life quietly, and through mere words on the screen, they impacted greatly into my life.
Back when 2go was the major platform for meeting people, I made a friend that has been in my life till today.
Back then, I had a small phone, and my 2go account was created with it. I was only 14 years at the time, and I had limited time to spend on the phone, because of my parent's rules.
Then, there was nothing much to say, except "hey", "kk" which was the common form of saying "okay". Adding to a lot of other irrelevant things that kids would talk about.
After 2go crashed, we stumbled upon each other again on Facebook, and our friendship continued there. Then, Facebook didn't have all the nice features it has now. No video call, no voice notes, and no voice calls. Just a few limited number of pictures to send per day.
People often say that online friendships are fake, and there is no benefit in it. But I do not agree with this. If I could learn some new things, including a few new cooking recipes from someone I had never met, then, I believe that not all online friendships are unprofitable.
Also, there is this idea that online friendships do not last, and I doubt that too. My friendship with my online buddy lasted for five years before we finally got to see each other's faces for the first time through a video call.
I remember these moments vividly, as I was too shy to even look at the screen. Seeing someone I already called my best friend for the first time, and it wasn't even physical.
Online friendship may have its constraints, like, the inability to hang out together, see movies together, or visit each other. But still, an online friend can be a companion in difficult times.
Back then, there were times when I was at my lowest, I wouldn't want to see anyone, or speak to anyone. But the moment I came online and he was active, somehow, it felt more comfortable to vent to him about my struggles.
We practically told each other every detail of our lives.
Mind you, I had physical friends too. Some might think that maybe I had no other friends, or probably I was a loner. That's wrong. I had friends, but my friendship with him was more real than what I had with my physical friends. He knew most things that I wouldn't share with other people, and I knew things about him too.
People tend to even say that friendships that lasts a bit online, are the ones that had to do with relationships. But that's not entirely true.
I and my online buddy never dated. Though as a child, I used to feel that he was my destined one. Probably because I had seen a lot of movies, but that wasn't the case.
We were worlds apart. He had his perfect life at Texas, and I was here in Nigeria.
And despite the whole talk about online friendships not lasting, ten years has passed, and we are still best of friends. He's married now, but still, hardly would a day or two go by without us speaking to each other.
He knows my friends, and I know his family too, and everyone is cool with it.
Through these experiences, I believe that friendships and relationships can work out despite the distance. What matters is the energy the two parties bring in. As long as there's a vibe, it'll surely work out, more than most physical friendships as well.
I often wonder how it would've been if we had met physically. And when I play out a few scenarios in my head, I see that maybe it could've been more beautiful, since we had so much chemistry and vibe.
In conclusion, online friendships can work out fine despite the distance as long as the two people involved are willing to put in the energy needed.
If a friendship is one-sided, whether it is physical or not, it does not ever last. At some point, one party will give up on it, and it would end.
My friendship with my online buddy wasn't always smooth. There were times when we fought, stayed days without speaking to each other, and in the end, we'd still come back to our senses and apologize to each other. This was possible because we both wanted it to work. So as long as you put in the energy, online friendship can work out just fine, like physical friendships.
Wow! 10 years of online friendship and that’s truly heartwarming! 🥹 Your story proves that distance can never stop genuine connections! 🌷
Yes, that's right
As long as you're ready to keep it moving, distance is never a barrier for true friendship
Thanks for reading 😊
Wow, its nice and surprising that you still kept the relationship with him after all these years. That's real bond 🤝🏼
Yes
The bond is real indeed
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