As humans, we sometimes tend to be filled with doubtful thoughts, thereby leading to insecurity. Too much insecurity can lead to a lot of problems in our personal life, sometimes if affects our friends and families.
Insecurity is that feeling that tells you you are not good enough. It creates anxiety about yourself; goals, relationships, friendships and even the ability to complete simple tasks. Everyone has a story to tell when it comes to the kind of insecurity they are battling with. Relationship insecurity, social insecurity, body image insecurity, job insecurity, financial insecurity; these are extremely touchy subjects, don’t joke with them.
It is not really nice to point out people’s insecurity when you see them. Most people even take it far by gossiping about it or saying it in public places just to make jest of them. It is a really mean thing to do. Some people even go as far as posting it on different social media platforms. Stop embarrassing people! There are so many things to talk about; football, games, movies, planes, expensive cars, celebrities, fans, biscuits, money, injections… more than 1 million things. Just skip the insecurity part.
They know they have a big head, they know they are short or too tall, they know they have dark spots on their face, they can actually see the big pimple on their forehead, they know they have skin problems. Whatever insecurity you see, they know they have it. Then why are you pointing it out? Don’t you think it is just so unreasonable?
These insecurities hurt badly. It is enough that they cause low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, eaten disorders, it can even leas to substance use disorder, it makes a lot of people feel less attractive and worse still it could lead to suicide. Don’t be a wicked person! Try as much as possible to me nice.
I’ll share a true-life story of what insecurity can lead to.
I was born and brought up in a catholic church. My Family do attend morning mass every day. There was a year we attended mass for the whole year without skipping a day. I attended church programs; Youth meetings, retreats, visits to orphanages and so on. The church youth had their meetings every Thursday. They talk about a lot of things; church doctrines, health talks, relationship talks and so on. One faithful Thursday, a new member just joined us. She came in late. We welcome her with the usual welcoming song. The youth president addressed her and asked her to tell us things about herself. Immediately she opened her mouth to talk, everyone started laughing silently. Her middle teeth were big, everyone could see it from where they sat. She managed to saw a few sentences. She was so embarrassed; I saw it in her eyes.
It was latter I got to know her name is Elizabeth. She didn’t mention it in the meeting or maybe she did but I didn’t hear. She started coming to Sunday masses and meetings. She was a really brilliant girl, she answered questions beautifully. And every time she got up to say something, they always laughed. The president warned them about it, but they never listened. They named her THE BUNNY. It was really annoying, I couldn’t do anything about it that time, I was too small to challenge those that made fun of her.
Well, after attending a lot of meetings and Sunday masses, she became tired, she couldn’t bear it anymore. She stopped coming. I knew it was going to happen, I knew she was going to stop coming, they really damaged her. After about 2 months of not seeing her, the youth president decided to pay her a visit. To cut the story short, we visited her, she stayed with her uncle. Unfortunately, we were told she went back to her parents’ place. The president collected her WhatsApp number and texted her. “ALL I WANTED WAS PEACE, NOT TO BE A LAUGHING STOCK.” This was her cold reply when we asked her why she left. Ever since then she stopped replying our messages, and one day she finally blocked our contacts to avoid disturbance.
Even if you’re a comedian, DON’T JOKE WITH PEOPLE’S INSECURITY, DON’T BE A MEAN PERSON.
Thank you for bringing this out. A whole lot of people make fun of others insecurities just to "cruise" which is disgusting really because they don't know what it's like to be a certain way.
It's even worse when those you consider your friends do it to you. It's way worse.
@stellageorge you’re right! Like why would someone you call your friend, catch ‘cruise’ with your insecurities!
I’m even thinking of sharing my personal story.
It's one of the many reasons I don't keep friends, because many are not true friends and they toy with one's feelings.
Please do share, if you won't feel bad about it. I'd personally love to learn from your story.
So true and also the most hardestvthing to do