Greetings!
I once came across a discussion on Facebook where someone jokingly called out whosoever that introduced the idea of age gap in marriages and relationships especially the idea of 'the husband must be older than the wife'.
Well, even though it was all joke with all the comments that were attached with it, I saw a deep meaning there because I don't think I've ever read in the religious book that man should be older. Okay, if it's there, it means I haven't paid attention to it.
I kept wondering, who initiated this idea in the first place where the man should be older than the wife? Some may argue it's to ensure the woman accords maximum respect to the man. In Africa, younger ones respect their elders, so this could hold true for Africans. However, we've seen cases where a woman respects a man she's older than. Incase you haven't seen, I've seen.
The truth is, we are all living by the laws and standards we set for ourselves, and gradually, these norms have influenced our minds and they seem very perfect.
I'm no exception; I've pondered the age gap in relationships many times, and I've never imagined myself in a relationship where the woman is older than me. I would feel as though I'm doing something wrong. You can't blame me; I've been influenced by the norms we've set for ourselves.
Is there a perfect age gap for couples?
Three Sundays ago, I was officiating outside in church with a lady, and we started discussing marriage. She mentioned that it's foolish for guys to seek younger girls rather than marrying someone their age. The way she said it suggested she may have been turned down by a guy due to age, though I didn't ask her about it. She's 23, turning 24 in September, and I wonder about the age of the guy who turned her down. She also mentioned spiritual parents who married their age mates and are doing well.
I was so careful in replying her because I didn't want her to put me on the spot. Before then, I didn't know her age and I was thinking maybe she's up to 26years already.
To me, there's no fixed number of years for a gap. All I know is that the man should be older than the woman with a reasonable age difference. I don't see a 1-year difference as a significant gap. If you examine a 1-year difference closely, it often isn't even a full year, especially when considering the days in each month. Lol😂
While writing this, I asked a friend that was closeby if he would marry someone older than him or if there's an age limit he would consider. He said age doesn't matter as long as it's not visibly affecting the woman's appearance. In other words, as long as she doesn't look significantly older, he's okay with it.
Wow! Wow!
Let me stop here.
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Society has a way of derogating their views against someone's desire to take a step at doing what they want. Age for me is an idea to make people feel that they are either too big or small. It does not really matter to me what age one has attained. I prefer looks and character.
Yeah, that's how it's supposed to be but the society has influenced the system so badly.
The influence has taken over my head too😂
It's sad though that those couple who has big age gap often get criticize as if it is so wrong. I mean, who are we to stop people who fell in love even with the huge age gap they have. It's like they want to apply what they believe is right to those people. It's just sad, coz how about those who genuinely love each other despite the gap right? As for me, I also have a prefer age for the man I want to love but, I already know that age doesn't really matter when love hit you 😆. Older or younger, then bet it.
Hahahaha!
There's actually nothing wrong with it but we can't go away from the society because we are the society. The society made it so, they made it look like age is a big deal with people in relationship or marriage
For me, I know I can't underestimate the power of love, that's why I'm praying not to be captured in a spot where the lady is older than me.😂
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I don't even know where you stand sef🥹🥹. Values stands out for me
Hahahahaha!
I didn't want to hit a nail.
Age is not just a number and the gap is not fixed....let there be a reasonable gap with the guy being older😂
Our society makes all these things difficult and thinks it is a big deal, but one of my fears is that I can never marry someone older as the age of my father
Hahahahah!😂
But they(serious people) preach that age is just a number na😂.
Age is age and not a number abeg 😂
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Age Matters in a relationship but Love and Understanding can make relationship with all types of Age Gap work
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