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Good afternoon, friends of hive, today I want to share with you a rather complex topic, it is about love and money. We know that money influences relationships and bonds, but to what extent is it true? I think there may have been some things left untreated, I didn't because the topic would get too far.
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Money can buy almost anything
Money can buy an infinite number of material objects or belongings that can make human life easier, more comfortable and dignified. Quality of life is something that most people around the world strive for, no matter their nationality, language, religion or skin color. This is something that applies, almost across the board, for the simple fact that everyone wants to live well.
From my perspective, the minimum requirements for living well are as follows:
Own house or accommodation.
Basic services, such as electricity, water, gas, internet, among others.
Health services.
At least 3 meals a day that are delicious and nutritious.
Education.
A steady and financially stable job (enough to pay monthly expenses).
Leisure time, at least once a week.
Now, all of this can be achieved with money and is a big part of our lives, so some might say that money makes the world go round, but that is not always true. There is something intangible that cannot be bought with money and that is "love".
Why?
The answers can be very varied, but we could say that love is something that is born through a series of constructs, events and interactions between two or more people. That is, the more you interact with a person, the more likely you are to build and develop feelings or emotions for that person, such as admiration, sympathy, attachment, joy, tranquility, security, among others.
These are feelings and emotions that we develop with enough time and interactions, spending quality time with your friends, family and romantic interests, trigger something called "love". From this, we can conclude that love is a construct whose raw material is "time + interactions" and not money, more specifically "quality time".
Some money may enter into the formula in the form of a "gift", but it is not the main catalyst and interactions become more important as time goes on.
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Price is a reflection of superficial characteristics.
People can become so obsessed with money that they engage in the wrong actions or thoughts. If someone firmly believes that money can buy love, just get a lot of money and you can have interpersonal relationships "bought by money". In some countries there are practices where you can rent a person to be your friend for a limited time, as is the case in Japan.
If we go further, the structure of societies dictates that people, especially women, should always look for a man who is financially solvent. In other words, this can be interpreted in the following sense: "the value of a man is linked to some extent to his ability to make money". If we go even further, in Asian countries like South Korea, couples end the relationship (not in all cases) if the man does not have a good job, this is because the cost of living of a couple is very high.
So how much money does love cost?
This can be subjective and depends on each person, if a man or woman has a very high perception of himself or herself, and thinks "to sell his or her love". Then it can be very expensive, while, if he or she considers that he or she does not have such a high value, the price will be lower.
Behind all this, there is an inescapable fact for any person, man or woman. It is the following: "you can sell your company, your caresses, your time, but you cannot sell your heart". This is actually very simple, the heart does not pursue material attachments, or the idea of "selling out" and is only guided by the pure act of loving another person.
If you sell yourself, you are not loving and the buyer will have your body and your time, but not your heart.
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It is an exchange of time and interactions.
Well, we have come to the conclusion that love is a construct and that it cannot be bought, but if it cannot be bought with money?
So what does it take?
From my perspective, it takes "time", that is the currency you will use to love and be loved. The value of love cannot be measured, therefore, you can only get it for something that is equally priceless, that is, "time" my dear friends. Time is the most valuable instrument precisely because it is finite, human beings do not have much time to live. The mere fact of spending quality moments with a person we love is an act of genuine love.
Perhaps, if you are a parent, it would be better to spend more quality time with your children, try to get closer to them, it will make them feel loved, even if they don't understand it at first. Later, when they are your age, they will treasure those moments together and know that they were loved.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read.
I hope you liked it.
This post has been translated using the "deepl" translator, please if you see any errors, let me know in the comments to correct it as soon as possible.
Wow despite using money to buy and Carter for some basic need of man, yet there's what money can't buy is love.
That is correct, I totally agree.
Well said but what if I buy love and still possess the two attribute you mentioned: "quality time and interaction".
Won't I successfully buy love?
Friend, there are many variables in love, but according to my perception, when one of the two parties is predisposed to profit, it is very difficult for true love to exist. The only way to show that a person is not there for money is that the economic situation becomes bad. When difficulties come, you can see the color of people.
My final advice is very simple, don't try to buy it, try to build it.
Okay... Well said.
Yeah... time is even more important in a relationship than money. Because even if the money is there but there is no time spent together, then is there really a relationship?
Thank you for sharing this with us.
That comment hits the nail on the head. There are men who build golden cages to have a queen trapped in four walls. The roof may be covered with diamonds, but there is no love.