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We are living in a society and every society imposes different rules and standards to us and i think we can't get to those strandeds every time. But we are trying to get on these standards but sometimes we fail. I'm living in an asiatic country which sometimes really difficult to live in sometime due to society.
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I can't be a perfect person!!!
I think that everyone wants to be perfect and other also want to see us perfect like we should be flawless but it can't happen. Personally i met with many people in my life who wants to see me perfect but I can't be a perfect as I've many flaws in me, I'm not good in many things. As we all know that no one is perfect in this world.
Sadly, this society reject me sometime due to flaws in me.
Wrong standards of our society!!!
There are many standards in our society but i want to discuss about dowry. I'm totally against dowry but we've to do this because of society. Dowry is actually a gift, money or sometime a piece of property which is given to bride and groom from bride family.
A gift is okay but now in this era, in 2025 it gets worse. Believe me dowry contains every little single thing of house like furniture, crockery, utensils, make-up, other stuff and sometimes groom family put high demand like gift some gold to our son and gift a car to our son. Really i got frustrated because of these standards. I don't know why grooms family totally dependant on brides parents.
It's okay if you guys want dowry then i agree with a condition that arrange a house too for that dowry. Groom's family only arrange a small room in their house and you know when members increase in a single small house then there's less space for room, like you can't put your all luggage in one single room.
How my dowry become a waste!!!!
As you know I'm a married woman, my parents also gave me dowry, i don't know how they arrange it, obviously it was so difficult to arrange all the things but I feel sad that when I saw my all things put like a waste in house and there's no place for that things. Because for my dowry gifts they need to arrange at least two rooms.
Although there's no place for the things in their house but still my mother-in-law taunt me sometime that you didn't bring those other things with you. Huhhh sometimes it's worst to live in such people.
A worst demand from my in-laws
Exact, before two days of my wedding ceremony, my mother in law called to my mom and asked for arranging a Gold chain for my husband and also a gold ring for my mother in law, we felt worry at that time because it's difficult to arrange gold within a single night but then i don't know how my dad take loans from his friend and arrange a gold chain and ring. That's really wrench my heart. If i said to my dad that we shouldn't obeyed their demands then my dad said these are our society standards.
Although, in our religion it's Haram to wear Gold for men but who care about religion when we've society. Sadly we don't follow religion anymore we follow society and I hate this sometimes at least in many things because society standards are wrong.
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Wow..that's so sad my dear...some society expectations are just too high , too extreme and worrisome
Putting people under unnecessary pressure to meet up
It's just unrealistic
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Yes, some society pressures are so high and unrealistic, but we have to survive in such a society too
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No one is perfect but society want everyone to be perfect which is impossible. I guess the dowry issue is in everywhere and in my country, too, dowry is something very important to do as the groom and funny enough, this affect the woman later where she’s harassed of not bringing anything to the home. That’s the society we live in today.
Huhhh yes different countries have dowry issues and yes women get harassed too when they don't bring something
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STOPThe truth is there is no prefect human and people should get that.
Now this issue on the dowry aspect. It's not like that here in my place, here it's the duty of the groom's family to provide dowry. And it can be in money term or whatever is agreed upon.
Truly people don't follow religion, they just go by what society says.
But people want to see only the perfect thing....
Here everything is provided by the bride's family to the groom's family sometimes it's like a burden..... Unnecessary things
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I see it like a burden too. It's actually so unnecessary.
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I think the blame should be on your husband because he couldn't refuse his mother's request. In my case, my mother also used to expect dowry as it became normal, but I made it clear to her that I wanted to stop dreaming about it because I would not allow it. In fact, I have threatened her that I would isolate them after marriage if she expects dowry. I am not married yet, but I have already taken the step, and my marriage should be what I want it to be because that's my life and my will be my responsibility. The groom needs to be bold when it comes to dowry. Those grooms are shameless to me, who are educated but take the groom from the bride's family. I think the person doesn't deserve to get married if he can't buy things for his family. The interesting thing is that I obeyed all of their words till now, but it doesn't mean I am ready to obey everything that they want, as they are not always right.
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