A Traditional Wedding Procedure

in Hive Learners2 years ago (edited)

I may not know much about my tribe and how other activities are done but for marriages, I do know to an extent how the traditional aspect is done. That is because I've been to a lot of traditional marriages... I love parties a lot 😉

Talking about my tribe in any way gives me a sense of pride because I get to proclaim my love for my tribe and it also make me learn more about where I'm from.

I'm a native of Urhobo from delta state in Nigeria. The Urhobo are known for unique activities including their marriage. I'll be using some pictures I took at a traditional marriage I attended some days back to explain what Iknow about how traditional marriages are done in my tribe.

The Preparations

This is the most tiring but exciting part of the marriage, where most people prepare their traditional wears especially the couple getting married. This is also the time the marriage ceremony venue is decorated especially where the couple will be seated during the ceremony.

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I've seen different amazing designs in different traditional marriages and I'm must say this design was so cool that I couldn't stop taking pictures of it even though it was from a far angle.

In the past, it wasn't very important to decorate such beautiful place for the couple but nowadays, it's a must aspect for marriage to be complete.

Most at times, the colour of the couple wears is the design colour of the couple castle.

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While all the preparations are going on, we see all the invitees getting seated and waiting for the ceremony to kick off. I was one of them and I sat at a place where I could see most of what was going to happen at the ceremony.

At this time, the bride was being taken care of by making her up and help her wear her traditional attire. The groom was already seated at the venue waiting to see his bride... It's tradition that he only gets to see her when she's dressed and escorted to the venue by some women.

The Marriage Registration

For some couple plan, they pay the bride price in the presence of few persons and that was what happened with this couple. So they only had to get their marriage certificate. This was where the bride first came out.

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She was escorted by women who sang happy songs as they walk majestically with the bride. The bride wore a different traditional attire just for the certificate signing.

The groom was asked to sign and the bride signed also to certify their marriage together.

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The organizer of that agenda raised the certificate and prayed over it to announce that their marriage has been certified.

The bride went inside her father's house to change her wears for the traditional marriage proper.

The Second Escort

The bride comes out the last time with another wear (her main traditional wear for the marriage) and the women escorts her to meet her groom who has been waiting with their attire.

They would join hands together to meet the father of the bride for his blessings.

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The Blessing Of The Bride's Father (The drink)

This is the part where the couple goes to meet the Bride's Father for his blessing by giving the couple drink and praying for the drink.

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Another person pours the wine and gives it to the Bride's Father.

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The Bride's Father prays for the wine and drinks it then ask for another serving to give to the couple.

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The couple take turns to drink the wine given to them, the groom drinks first then gives it to the bride to drink some too and the left over is given to the man to finish it up.

The Dance! The Food! The Jubilation!

This is the highlight of the traditional marriage where the couple are joined finally and they dance happily to their castle prepared for them.

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The chosen asoebi women would dance with them and escort them to their seat then continue to dance as people eat their traditional food while those who have gifts goes to meet the couple at their castle to bestow their gifts to them.

And that is how the traditional marriage ends. The couple may proceed to having a reception marriage if they wish to after this but with just the ceremony, a couple is said to be married.

Thanks for reading!!!

All images used were pictures taken at a friend's marriage

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Thank you for the lovely insights and photos Merit❣️I found the drinking ceremony quite interesting. Their attire is quite resplendent and they make a beautiful couple. Looks like it was a joyful occasion to attend. !PIZZA !ALIVE

 2 years ago  

It was so interesting than I was able to cover to get pictures of it all... I'm glad you find it interesting, thanks Sam

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 2 years ago  

Very colorful and beautiful, I love the fact that your images are orginal, and it explains the wedding ceremony in details.

Thank you for sharing

 2 years ago  

Thanks a lot, It was nice seeing all the activities in reality

 2 years ago  

Thank you for leaving such beautiful comment😊😊.

 2 years ago  

This was quite a celebration.
I really had fun going through this.
Very detailed.
thanks for sharing dear friend.

 2 years ago  

It was even amazing in reality ☺️
Thanks for reading and viewing

 2 years ago  

I'm glad you enjoyed reading through, it's my pleasure.

I have never been to an Urhobo wedding before, and it sure looks like a lot of fun. There is a lot of steps in the process but that does not make it difficult in the least. Matter of fact, it all builds up to the fun and glamour at the end.
This is truly beautiful, thank you for sharing this with us.

 2 years ago  

Yeah it's really fun to experience, and it is not really as hard as it seems.

Thanks for stopping by.

Lovely couple
...And an even lovelier photographer 😉

 2 years ago  

Yeah, that's true. I appreciate your comment😊😊.

You're welcome!

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 2 years ago  

You sure took a lot of pictures

 2 years ago  

Haha yeah I did, it was way too beautiful to skip a part... Still have lots of them 😂

 2 years ago  

You are very correct. This is exactly how it is done in my own place. This wedding is colourful and blessed.

 2 years ago  

Blessed indeed 😊
Seems you're same tribe or not?

That's an interesting wedding ceremony and the couple look beautiful :)

 2 years ago  

Yeah, everything that day was so beautiful

I love seeing Nigerian culture preached about. That looked like a beautiful experience. I have never fully attended a traditional marriage. I love their colors too and the settings. The bride has a beautiful smile.

Shey that thing na hot? I fit drink am so? 👀

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 2 years ago  

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This particular one wasn't a hot but some other people do use hot... It was wine they used this one.

The bride has a beautiful smile for sure 😊

 2 years ago  

I know you had to sit at the front to take as much pictures 😅😅 Look at Zizy and her hubby. Thank God for the wedding and thanks for explaining how traditional wedding is being organized. I came via @Dreemport

 2 years ago  

Yes o
I didn't even sit for long because I had to take pictures from different angles

 2 years ago  

Interesting, some are similar to my tribe but I have never heard of the signing of the register

 2 years ago  

Yeah, it's a style according to the way the couple wants it to be done for them... Not all traditional marriage has that activity in it

 2 years ago  

Oh okay, interesting to know.

 2 years ago  

This was really a fun-filled day 🤩🤩.

 2 years ago  

Wow! It's totally different then ours.

Thanks for sharing. Via @dreemport

 2 years ago  

Oh I wish to see how it's done over there... Must be amazing as well

 2 years ago  

At this point, can't share on blockchain some Wedding pictures of my sister. You can google Pakistani weddings. Or dm me in discord i will share pictures.

 2 years ago  

Alright, maybe I'll Google it

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