Ghosting was not something I thought I would ever do, because I am the type that naturally loves to explain myself and state the whys to some actions I want to take before going ahead to take them. Just see it that I value communications a lot, and I don't like people assuming wrongly about me, so I strive to always explain the many whys as the need arises and maybe seek to fix every error and continue to live peacefully with people, but then, it came to a point in my life with a friend that ghosting was really needed.
I was speechless and overwhelmed by her actions, and the best I could do was gradually ghost her to date. Well, it didn't happen to one person or two; some people are just not meant to stick with us forever and that's the simple truth no matter how we strive to maintain a friendship . Some are like marketers, coming and going back; some even hurt us and go, while some create nice memories and vanish too—that's life. Some persons have ghosted me in the past, and I did the same too to a few others when it was necessary. The simple way I can define ghosting is detaching yourself from someone with no text messages, no calls, no explanations of any sort, no goodbye, no nothing, and that was what I did.
It could be for different reasons, and you just say some matters are better left undiscussed. It could be that our goals and interests aren't aligning anymore, it could be due to toxic friends, etc.
However, there was a time I had to ghost someone who was once close to me, and I never wished it could be reversed! Let's just call this babe Rita. She was one of the friends I made here in Lagos when I relocated newly. The estate looked so lonely, but she never made me feel bored. I loved her vibes and positive energy until she started demonstrating negative energies all around me. The way we were bonded, eh! She used to be the first person I shared my good news with, with all excitement. I also don't withhold sharing my low moments with her, and she will cheer me up, but as time goes on, I begin to notice something unusual from her.
For every good news I share with her, instead of her usual excitement, she will begin to compare, even complain and criticize my choice of certain things as if we are in one competition. I only see her as a good person when I share bad news with her; she will begin to tell me how God won't forsake me. I know, but why is she not happy with my good news? Why was it always a matter to analyze with low energy? I was quite sensitive because it kept repeating itself, and I tried correcting her, but it will only end in quarreling without any positive change.
Her consistent attitude started to affect my peace of mind, which is a luxury to me. I was no longer comfortable at the sound of her name. Even when her call comes in, my heart skips, oh boy... I had to choose to protect my mind over the friendship. I didn't know what to say to her, than started ghosting her gradually till date.
Everything about us dropped: the calls, the gist, village market shopping for food stuffs, oh!I missed that one...lol, but the ghosting was needed to protect my sanity.
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You see when we start to share some things to people we are close to and they are acting weird or unusual, just know they are bad vibes. We just need to be sensitive and careful so we don’t release information to the wrong people who wouldn’t care but to hurt us. Some people are just jealous. Glad you ghosted her and you not explaining the whys is okay, not everyone needs our explanation just like others don’t need to explain to us.
Abi na you she Dey talk about 😂 🏃♂️. Because I have some feelings 😂
May God hv mercy on you 🤣
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Wicked people 😂
Omo..that's my bitter discovery but glad I didn't really go deeper with her before I discovered the real her
What a practical experience. We just have to be careful how we share certain things especially concerning ourselves. Oh yes sometimes ghosting helps to curb a lot.
Thanks for sharing
Yea .ghosting can really help to curb certain things for good
Honestly, I used to be like that too. I loved to talk about every single thing that goes wrong. But at the long run, I learnt the hard way. Not everyone is worth reconciling with. Some aren’t really worth being in our life. It’s not malice or a fight like you stated earlier, they are just better off your life for your own good and sane sake🕊️. It was great reading the piece of your heart .
Glad u learned the hard way oo..life is about learning for a better growth
Thank you 😂. That's the bitter truth.
Ghosting is not always about malice, sometimes it’s just self-preservation, protecting your mind and peace is worth more than forcing a draining friendship.
Exactly my dear ❤️
Oh girl, Abi sorry. Oh woman! You do well oo. Which kind bad energy be that one.
Nkem Airplane Mode in DND of Ghost Mode activated
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Great comedian .lol
I think maintaining peace of mind is of utmost importance when it comes to our interactions with people. I've ghosted extended family members for such reasons. People can be hard headed in their ways and refuse to examine their own behaviour and course correct.
Oh boy..even extended family members can be annoying
Anything for my peace of mind abeg
Such people are actually very dangerous to walk with and it was such a great idea of letting her go.... That's a form of bitter envy you know
Yea..bitter envy
U.got it
It is well with her soul o
Omo. See, people like this can do and undo. People who start acting weird when you share good news with them. Ghosting such a person is the only option. Maybe there are other options oo, but ghosting will probably be the best.
Yea..I also thought I did well by ghosting her
It’s good you ghosted get because gradually, she would have started to hate you and God knows what she will do next. It’s better to have no friends than have friends who low-key envy you.
I am telling u...it's better to hv no friends than their type
Ghosting her is valid sha
People like that for your mental health’s sake, it’s better to outrightly cut them off because that’s bad energy.
I’ll definitely do the same if I find myself in similar position
Glad you agree with me
Such a bad energy of hers was begining to affect me before I took action
You did well ghosting such a jealous person. She's not happy when good news comes your way but she will turn to a woman of God preaching to you up and down when things are not looking too good. Na jealousy dey worry her o
U see me oo sis 😃
She turn you pastor over night
Ndi uchu 🤣
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Hmmm I think I've once read your experience about this same person, so ghosting her for the case of your peace is a wonderful decision, some people are just like that.
My dear..I try ghosting her shaa
Hehe... Smart choice.
There are people like that. When you tell them you bought a new phone, they'll say why didn't you buy an iPhone. But if it's an iPhone you bought, they'll say you wasted your money and should have bought android. They'll always have something to say that will put down your wins.
They just can't accept you doing well and will try to bring you down to their level. Stay away from them!!! You made the right choice.
Omo..u just analysed this thing well...their way is not pure atall , but I am always sensitive with people I deal with ...ghosting her made sense
Glad u agreed with me
Thank you
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You are absolutely right, some persons aren't meant to be in our lives forever.
I ghost people when I feel uncomfortable with the friendship, because I prioritize my Peace.
Not everyone is worth reconciling with for real.
Yesooo..peace of mind is a luxury
At some point in our life, ghosting is needed especially if it start affecting our mental health
Exactly ..I try to guide my mental health