Surrogacy is a practice where a person becomes pregnant, carries a child, and delivers the child on behalf of another couple who donated their egg and sperm to the surrogate prior to the pregnancy. So basically, there should be a legal agreement before this kind of arrangement is put in place.
The primary reason why surrogacy is used is because the couple couldn't get a child through the traditional method. There are also cogent reasons, like medical conditions, where the woman cannot have a child even though she can produce eggs. Again, in a case where a woman has undergone cesarean sections the maximum number of times and because of her health or the safety of her life, she is advised not to go again! And let's say for some reason, she was only able to get just one child alive, and she needs more, but she cannot carry another pregnancy; a surrogate can help such couples to have another child.
There are also secondary reasons why people choose surrogacy over the traditional method of giving birth. For someone who does the kind of work that her body image is important, such a person may embrace surrogacy; it's her choice. Just like most of our celebrities today, who don't want to lose their body shape over pregnancy, not that they have any health issues. Again, not everyone can handle the labor of childbearing. They think of it, and they decide that it's not for them, and surrogacy becomes an option. Two weeks ago, I was discussing with one of my casual friends at the saloon, and she told me her plan of going for surrogacy for her 3rd child. She complained about the labor pain so far and the journey of nine months of pregnancy and how it's so difficult to bear, so her decision was to search for a surrogate.
You see, different people have different reasons for choosing surrogacy over the traditional method of childbearing. Personally, I think surrogacy is very ethical.
It's as ethical as any other thing that people do in terms of childbearing as long as the surrogate mother gives consent and then everything is documented and not under duress; it's very ethical. Everyone is within their rights to do that. It's just like saying, is adoption ethical? It's not your biological child, but you adopted the child, documented it and did all the necessary things formally. So surrogacy as a method of childbearing shouldn't be abandoned in favor of traditional methods but rather allow people to make their informed decisions for their personal reasons; it's a choice, but then proper regulations and fairness should be maintained among the three parties involved.
Personally, I think surrogacy is something I can get involved in only if it's for health reasons and if I am unable to carry a pregnancy and have a child. But there are concerns! What if the surrogate mother decides to change her mind after birthing the baby? What if she gives birth and no longer wants to part with the baby? Or what if my husband later gets an emotional attachment to the surrogate mother, hahaha 😂
Overall, before a pregnancy is established, it's important that the surrogate mother and the intended parents come to an agreement and have proper documentation to avoid the anticipated risks involved. Personally, if I am going to go for surrogacy; I will prefer a relative if possible rather than a stranger. I think I prefer surrogacy to adoption if atall I have any need for that in the future.
This post is in response to the #HiveLearners community contest on the topic titled, Surrogacy.
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Omo, these your thoughts are very valid. This step is a very delicate one that’s why a lot of things go into place before the whole process can even be started.
Counselling, agreements, building relationships and many more.
Yesoo
Deep counseling oo and written agreement well signed is important
You’re right!
I think surrogacy has helped so many couples who can't birth their own children themselves coz of one health issue or the other.
I've seen in movies where somehow the surrogate mother becomes attached to the baby and isn't willing to let go that's why having an agreement beforehand is best
Indeed, some people embraced it over fertility issues and got the problem sorted out
In any case, formal agreement is recommended
Yes, definitely
These are my thoughts, too, but I think we don't need to see face to face or know my address for whatever reason it is. Everything should be confidential 👌
Yea, making a confidential arrangement sounds good too to avoid unnecessary drama
I also think same like you. I don't support surrogacy unless there is no health issues. I believe that if a healthy mother don't dare to conceive, I doubt that that mother love a child genuinely. It's just my opinion.
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Exactly...if I am healthy enough, then I should be able to carry my child and birth him or her instead of opting for surrogacy option of child bearing
Ma that's what there are rules and agreement backing it.
Husband get attached ke 😂
Hehehe 😃, u think it's not possible? Lol
Wow. This is interesting. I love your perspective to surrogacy and knowing it isn't a bad idea considering the health challenges of some couples who need babies but going for such option is okay as long as the three people involved undergo a strict agreement so it doesn't turn to another issue in the future.
Indeed...that's the idea of surrogacy and it makes sense doing the needful before going into the process
It's actually a good thing considering how much it has helped lots of people with health complications and aside from that, it's a no go area.
Sadly, a lot of people now take advantage of this option in different ways and I suggest the government come up with strong laws preventing people from illegally involving in surrogacy.
It's unfortunate that some people misuses this method for their selfish reasons. All I know is that the original aim of this idea is not bad, except that humans will be humans
Hahaha..surrogacy does have its perks but then, it is fine as long as those involved are ready to go ahead with it after knowing the terms and conditions involved.
Exactly...I think having a better understanding of it prior to having it done is just the best. Also having a mutual agreement prior to establishing a pregnancy with the surrogate!
Yeah, the agreement is very key.
Yeah. Even myself don't see surrogacy as a crime. Is just people's choice. It doesn't matter how others see it.
When you talk about having a relative as a surrogate mother instead of a stranger. My dear, one day that relative can come for her child. She may begin to tell the child that you are not the mother and begin to create a scene. I would rather go with someone I don't even know. The hospital should carry out all the taste and so everything. I will just come for the baby after delivery.
Thanks for sharing
That looks like a valid point 👌
Anyways, good enough God has blessed me with my own children, so hopefully I wouldn't need a surrogate mother in the future 😃
There is nothing wrong with surrogacy it is very important whenever one is going into surrogacy try to go into arrangement with the person
Yea.. proper planning and necessary arrangements for is vital
Yes mama
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