As someone who has spent the majority of his adulthood trying to make sure that I challenge myself in situations that normally would make me feel shy, I still feel like there are still certain situations that I can find myself in and still not be able to speak up. And although I feel ashamed for still feeling this way, something that happened today made me realize that a lot of adults still suffer from this same thing.
My brother had traveled today from Lagos down to the east, and while he was on the road, I had called him to ask him how he was doing and also know his current location. While we were on the phone talking, we had switched to text, and he had told me that he was pressed and needed to go pee but didn't want to say anything to the driver.
His plan was to wait until someone else complained to the driver so that he too could use that opportunity to go pee. Apparently he had waited for another hour, and yet no one said anything, and just as it got to the point where he couldn't bear the pain anymore, he had spoken up, and to his surprise, everyone had agreed with him.
According to him, it turned out that they all wanted to pee too but were all waiting for someone to speak up first, and these were mature men and women in this bus, all being too scared or shy to tell the driver to park so that they could relieve themselves.
When he told me what happened, I asked myself what I would have done in that situation, and the truth is that I probably would have done the same thing my brother did at first; I would have waited, hoping for someone to speak up first, because I too would be too shy to speak up.
And at this current age of mine, I'm a bit embarrassed that I still feel this way, irrespective of all the hard work I've put into making sure that I never feel this way ever again.
I guess at the end of the day, it all goes to show that I still have some more work to do on myself, and hopefully one day, I will get to that stage where I get to speak freely when I want to without feeling shy or embarrassed.
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I can guess the situation but I would speak up in such a situation. Naturally I am a very shy type person but in this case I don't feel it's a thing to shy and I have done it several time during the time of journey. Why should I need someone to speak up?