“John, If you do not return to this house by 6pm Sharp! You will know that I am your mother.”
These are the words of a Typical Nigerian Mom, who really loves her children and does not want any harm to come to them, but is that really the best, living and caring way to show that you love and want to protect your Children?
There are sometimes when kids do not feel comfortable when their Parents are around, especially teenagers and they would always want to be kept in a distance little far away from their Parents, all they want is some private time of theirs. But then, Do they really need this Privacy from their Parents? I would say Yes, they do! In as much as parents wants to make sure at all time that their kids are safe and that they are protected, they should also be willing to give these children of their some time of their own to be able to make some decisions themselves and to become a Responsible person while growing up.
The quoted words above are implemented due to the Open-doors policy in the homes of most parents. At some point, yes it is necessary to set the Open-doors policy, so that the kids would have in mind when they are expected to be at home and then make sure that whatever they do, they are to make sure they are at home before that time. Yet, as kids grow up, responsibilities and circumstances also grow up or change as well and when that happens, there need to be adjustments to the Open-doors policy or even a total disable of the Policy in the home.
Kids, Children or Teenagers need private times and when they are not getting this Private time that they crave as Young ones, you see them feeling like they are lacking in some aspects and it may cause them to fall into the trap of Depression which is really dangerous as Young as they are. But, allowing the kids some time of their own without invading in the time feeling like yes, you have to do it because they are your kids and you have to Check on them and things if they nature is a way for you as a parent to show that you love your child and that you are really Guiding them and not spying on them. As a Parent you need to know when to allow you kids to have their own personal time, we too do have our own personal time and we enjoy and cherish those special times too, so why won't we allow the kids to have such time as well? Being too invasive would make them feel insecure whenever you as their parent is around and it is really dangerous when that happens. Instead of acting as a Guide in their lives, you would then become a Spy to them. They really Earn that private time and it is Necessary for them to be given it.
To deal with kids and teenagers are not really a thing for all. Each parent should know and understand their kids and as such, they would know the best way possible for them to handle them when it comes to The Open-doors policy and the invasion of their private Times. They are the ones that know what is right and what is wrong and they also have to power to make the decisions that would be of Great help to their kids.
I think parents need to recognize that there should be boundaries. Some parents act like police inspectors, but that is really not great. It pushes kids to start hiding things from them
You're Correct 💯
When they set boundaries, the children draw every closer to them and that makes it hard for them to hide things from their parents
This is very interesting
It's like u were just speaking my mind,
Ur very correct my brother.
Privacy is very important for use ooo
We need it
I just wish most parents could understand this
And stop acting like the were perfect when the were growing up
Thanks for this
You're absolutely right
Parents too had their own Teenage years and they took must have enjoyed some private times as well, so they also need to reciprocate the same to the children.
Ur very correct dr
Thanks so much
This is nicely written, to me I believe the time to give your child privacy is when they have entered their teenage age, and are going through puberty but that doesn't mean you should give them free hands or let them loose, there are still things you need to help them monitor, they are young and most time they don't know better, and this is the reason you are a parent and you should help them
Yes you're absolutely right
But in as much as they should monitor them, they shouldn't press on them to the extent of Invading their privacy
Yeah
You’re right
There are ways to give kids their privacy
A lot of ways there is
When my daughter was really little I noticed that whenever she heard me coming she would hide what she was doing and this made me feel bad because it just goes to show she doesn't trust me enough to share her moments with me or she's scared and thinks I'm mean. I started encouraging her to share by not yelling even when she's doing something I would frown at. like I have been sharing since this prompt was introduced, parenting is inbetween because a too much of one side action will just be chaotic.
You're right 👍
I know your daughter has started trusting you by now, right?
yeah 🙂😊
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A great write up,
I still believe that training a child to be a good person isn't more of flogging, punishment, or yelling, rather it should be more of making your child to be friendly with you. With that, every advice or corrections you gives to him will be accepted wholeheartedly and he or she will be opened up to you, he will like to tell you everything that is bothering him just like a friend do share his problems with fellow friend.
Exactly 💯
The entry is just typical of every Nigerian mother. They will always threaten to achieve their goal, but that shouldn't be the case. Parents should accept that everyone deserves privacy and they should know what applies to each child.
Exactly 💯
They should bear in mind that they took also were ones Children before growing up to adults
Important words to all parents. Each parent should know and understand their kids. Another person's pattern may not work for you. Have your pattern
Exactly 💯