They say man up, men don’t cry, you look weak when you cry, they say be a man, don’t show emotions, emotions are for the weak, and showing the world emotions means showing the world that you are a weak man, so you have to bottle your emotions, live with it, don’t share you emotions with anyone, it will only depict weakness, and people don’t like weak people, rather than getting help when you talk to someone, you will end up getting ridiculed and looked down upon, people will not want to associate with you because you will be tagged a weak man.
Statistics have shown that a lot of men die early, some commit suicide because they refuse to share their plights with the next person, they decide to face life alone, always there for others, but never allowing others to be there for them when they need someone to talk to or a shoulder to lean on. A person who tries to bear everything ends up destroying himself at the end.
Emotions are good to be let out in order for one to free themselves; holding your emotions is never good for your soul, it brings you down and, in some cases, result to a lot of illness. I woke up this morning to find out something that made me furious, I was so furious that I was quite through my trip back home, when I got home, I just laid off on my bed and I slept off, not finding where to drop my pain before sleeping, I was later woken up by a sharp pain in my chest which was as a result of the fact that I hadn’t expressed my frustration to anybody, you see, a lot was on my mind from yesterday, and didn’t know how best to express myself in other to relief myself, somethings I write about these things on my status, so I went on to my WhatsApp status to write down what was bothering in, the way I write this things usually are mostly to my own understanding, just trying to find someone who could relate to what I might be going through at the time to have a conversation with someone who will understand me better, and whenever I don’t find someone, I still get a feeling of relief for writing my thoughts down.
To tell a man to be silent with his worries, not to cry, be a man, and all sort of languages used to address is, is simply telling the man you are not loved for who you are, you are loved for the image the world sees you and you are expected to keep it that way, once this image the world know and sees you is lost, you will forever loss this feeling of love you had or thought you had, you are only valued because of the idea of you, but not because of who you truly are. Letting a man show emotion, simply means you are letting the man know that he too is human and is allowed to show emotions and you will love him more even in his weakest hours because he too is human and all humans are made up of the same thing, it doesn’t make you less of a man to show emotions or cry, it makes you more lovable, showing that you also need others, will make people to be there for you.
If we tell ourselves the truth, women have really come out to be strong and have shown so many capabilities to be as strong as men in some instances. Should we say that strong women, too, shouldn’t cry because it shows their weaker side as a woman and will attract disrespect to them? By all means, showing emotions only makes you look stronger and also gives you the strength to fight the next round.
Thank you for reading. My name is@rishagamo, and this is my response to the Hive Learners weekly Featured Content Week 203 Episode 02: “BIG BOYS DON’T CRY”.
