An argument often starts as a result of a misunderstanding, when two or more parties don’t understand each other and they both decide to disagree on the topic and try to force their own belief or understanding on the other leaving the other in disagreement with the statement or ideology. Sometimes, if you hear from both sides of the argument, they are mostly not far from each other but a case of a slight difference in perspective or mode of delivery.
I have had serious arguments with people on different subjects at different times, what I have come to realize is that in these arguments most of the time we are practically saying the same thing but in a different way. But when realizing that my pride usually refuses me to accept the other person's perspective, I would like to make the other person understand my point of view which is usually exhausting and energy-consuming, as much as I argue a lot, I usually hate arguments due to the energy it drains from me.
To settle an argument, what I do most time is to give each person talk time while the other person listens asking questions about the cause or topic of the misunderstanding in other to make sure that both parties understand each other clearly and that the argument is uncalled for.
Recently, I discovered that I used to argue a lot and I am known well for arguing, I did was to always stop talking any time I notice I am about to start arguing about something, and when I can’t do that, I make sure I leave the environment, I also take my time to present my suggestions or disagreement to the other party and if the other party is not fine with it, I accept to differ and don’t proceed further with the discussion.
The last argument I had recently was with a roommate of mine, usually, we have a roster of house chores and it was my turn to wash the toilet while it was his turn to cook, I had already bought what I needed to wash the toilet when he started cooking, in my mind I wanted to use the water that was left before calling to buy water to have cleaner and fresh water in the drum we store water, but as soon as I got up to wash the toilet, he started shouting at me that I should suspend washing the toilet that the water will not be enough, normally I would have responded on the top of my voice but this time I held strong and answer him softly to call for the water, he was still shouting so I simply left there for the rest room to wash the place, I was vexed, but I recently told myself not to get angry easily and try as much as I can to prevent any sort of argument.
We are all living with so much anger in my country, where you see people arguing on public buses, in the marketplace, and even in places like the church about silly things that do not hold water, I strongly advise that you all play nice and act kind to everyone you meet, apologize to people whenever you see someone angry with you for what you might have done because, to me, the best way to settle an argument is to prevent it.
My name is @rishagamo and this is my response to the hive learners Weekly Featured Content Week 161 Episode 02” SETTLING AN ARGUMENT”. I hope it was insightful.
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You are right. Sometimes, an argument results in heated discussion when people aren’t accepting the fact; they might actually be saying the same thing but in different way and the best is just to calm and be patient, but no one would be willing to accept it until it becomes something else.
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